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Weiss Words: A Retrospective Look at Commencement Speech Advice

Published in RINewsToday on May 11, 2026

With the arrival of spring and college graduation season, I am returning to a personal tradition. Once again, it is time for me to pen my annual commencement-style commentary saluting the more than 12,000 graduates receiving Bachelor’s degrees in 2026 from Rhode Island’s 12 accredited colleges and universities. Through this weekly commentary, I aim to provide these seniors with a unique roadmap for achieving both personal fulfillment and professional success.

Throughout May and June, these robed graduates will hopefully listen intently to commencement addresses—typically over 12 minutes in length (around 1,400 words). The speakers, who include lawmakers, judges, media personalities, and even CEOs, offer their personal observations and advice to guide the next generation.

Some of this year’s confirmed speakers include:

·         Ashley Judd (Actress and activist) at New England Institute of Technology, May 3;

·         Matthew Slater (Former New England Patriots captain) at Providence College, May 17;

·         Marc Randolph (Netflix co-founder) at the University of Rhode Island, May 15;

·         Ray Suarez (Journalist and author) at Salve Regina University, May 17;

·         Julie Mehretu (Artist) at Rhode Island School of Design, May 30;

·         Amy C. Edmondson (Harvard Business School professor) at Bryant University, May 16;

·         Dan Barry (Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist) at CCRI, May 12.

Brown University, unlike any other Ivy League institution or Rhode Island college, designates a graduating senior as its commencement speaker rather than inviting an outside dignitary.

Reflecting on the evolution of my addresses across the years helps, I provide you with a sampling, with advice that might just be valuable for this year’s graduates.

This year’s commencement speech offers a sampling of advice from previous graduating classes, drawing on reflections from earlier addresses. Though delivered in different moments, many of the themes remain relevant today, highlighting enduring lessons on growth, resilience, and purpose that may still benefit the 2026 graduates as they move forward.

Since 2008, I have written 12 commencement commentaries designed to prepare new graduates for the road ahead. I drew on AI, Stoicism, real-life experiences, and advice from Rhode Island authors to inspire seniors.

From 2014 to 2017, I shared insights from 53 everyday Rhode Islanders in my speeches, reminding graduates that valuable lessons often come from people in their own communities, not just high-profile speakers.

These individuals were everyday Rhode Islanders whose practical advice stemmed from lived experience. The core message: real-life experience is as valuable as prestige. Here is a sampling of their observations from my speeches:

Joan Retsinas, a Providence writer, offered her thoughts to the graduating seniors in 2014.  “Savor, savor, savor.  Savor the sunshine and the rain. Savor your friends, your family, your colleagues. Nurture the people close to you. Be a friend. Fall in love. If you fall out of love, fall in love again. Read “Winnie the Pooh” to a child. Eat ice cream. Ride a bike. Swim in the ocean. Laugh. As for fame, fortune, and success, don’t fret. They don’t really matter,” she says.

Wendy Jencks, Cumberland, Visitor Center Manager at the Blackstone Valley Visitor Center, gave this advice in my 2014 commencement speech: “There may be a time in young people’s lives when they are nervous to take a risk. Don’t be afraid to take a chance. If an opportunity or life experience arises and you want it, take it, even if it is unconventional. You may not get another opportunity again.”

Your first job is not necessarily your dream job,” says Jencks, 61. “You may discover your dream career outside your field of study. Don’t confine yourself to expectations.

Listen to their advice.

Carol Conley, assistant to the executive director of the Rhode Island Film Office, stressed, “Be grateful.” Be kind. Karma is a real thing. Give to others what you would like to receive, and it will eventually come back to you. Wait for it: trust the universe’s timing. Challenge yourself. Conquer your fears. Never, ever give up.

In my 2015 commencement speech, Kathy Needham, Rumford, Controller, of Blackstone Valley Call & Times, suggested: “Follow the old adage, ‘Autograph your work with excellence, it is a signature of who you are.”  Take great pride in all you do, but always remember to be humble.”

Cheryl Babiec, Pawtucket, Pawtucket School Teacher, gave her thoughts to the graduating seniors that year. “As an old saying goes…’One Man’s Junk is Another Man’s Treasure continues to hold true over the test of time. One of my year sale finds had the following inspirational verse (though the author is unknown): Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away.’

Wayne Rosenberg, Providence real estate broker and construction manager, advised the graduating seniors in 2016: “Most college degrees are not going to be your ticket to financial freedom. The most important challenge you will face is finding meaningful work. You must realize that no one can do this for you but yourself. Take charge. If you cannot find employment, consider being your own boss and employ yourself.”

In 2017, Nora Hall, North Kingston, freelance writer, recommended: “Empathy may be the most important life skill you can develop. It enables you to ‘put yourself in another’s shoes’ and makes you a great leader.”

And Susan Sweet, Rumford, former associate director at the RI Dept. of Elderly Afrairs and social advocate, added: “Make your own trail and avoid the well-worn path. Find interests and passions and live them. Create purpose in your life. Do something good, something useful in your life. Contribute to the happiness and well-being of other beings. Let Death be your advisor.”

In 2018, members of the Association of Rhode Island Authors offered advice on aging gracefully in a very challenging, constantly changing world.

Victoria Corliss of Cumberland, author of three books, shared this with graduates: “Sometimes, when you think things are falling apart, they’re really just falling into place. So, in times of chaos—which will come—take a deep breath, step back, and be still; it helps you see things more clearly. Here’s another piece of advice: ‘It’s not what happens to you that matters most, but how you react to it.’ Taking things in stride is a lifelong skill.”

Throughout these speeches, seniors were urged to be adaptable in an ever-changing world. Flexibility and ongoing learning will help you weather recessions, job market shifts, or AI disruption.

Glede Browne Kabongo, author and marketing consultant living in North Attleboro, Massachusetts, gave her two cents: “If you live for the approval of others, you will die by their criticism. Take your time and figure out who you are and what you want in life. It’s OK if it takes you a while; the journey is as important as the destination. You will have many failures and make many mistakes. Don’t hide from them. It’s part of your journey. Be kind to yourself and others. Kindness is powerful and can change the world.”

Continuing this pattern, the 2022 commencement speech integrated the themes of resilience, social connection, and lifelong learning and emphasized their importance in successfully navigating your life’s path. It also reaffirmed the central idea that aging is not something to be feared, but embraced as an ongoing process of growth.

Looking ahead to 2024, my commencement speech offered advice to the graduating seniors, drawing on stoicism, a school of Hellenistic philosophy that thrived in Ancient Greece and Rome. Five quoted philosophers encourage alignment with values to find a meaningful purpose in life, maintain inner peace, and appreciate the beauty and wonders of the world.

Seneca the Younger, who lived in the 1st Century CE, said: “True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future.” Don’t be consumed by worry and anxiety about the future obstacles you may face, because in all probability the problems will never happen,” he said.

Great advice for graduating seniors from the Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman, and playwright who lived almost 2,000 years ago.

The 2025 speech offered fresh advice: I drew on artificial intelligence and collective wisdom, referencing 64 cards with personal growth principles designed by Hypnotist John Koening. Eight cards, chosen at random, provided valuable lessons for the 2025 graduates, each of which is explored in this commentary.

Taken together, these reflections show that even as life changes, many of its core challenges and opportunities stay familiar. My hope is that something in these words speaks to you—and that you carry it with you as you move into whatever comes next.

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A complete listing of Herb Weiss’s Commencement Speeches:

“Unlocking Life’s Lessons: A Commencement Message Drawn from the Cards,” May 19, 2025 — https://rinewstoday.com/unlocking-lifes-lessons-a-commencement-message-drawn-from-the-cards-herb-weiss/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

“Stoic Tips for the Class of 2024,” May  27, 2024 —   https://herbweiss.blog/2024/05/27/stoic-tips-for-the-class-of-2024/

“Can AI Create an Authentic’ Commencement Address?,” May 15, 2023 https://rinewstoday.com/can-ai-create-an-authentic-commencement-address-herb-weiss/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

“To the Class of 2022: Age Boldly, Enjoy Your Journey,” May 16, 2022 —  https://rinewstoday.com/to-the-class-of-2022-age-boldly-enjoy-your-journey-herb-weiss/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

“Some Tips to College Seniors,” June 2, 2019 — https://herbweiss.blog/2019/06/02/some-tips-to-college-seniors/

“Rhode Islanders Give Tips to Graduates,” May 14, 2017 —https://herbweiss.blog/2017/05/14/rhode-islanders-give-tips-to-graduates/

“Regular Folks Give Sound Advice to Class of 2016 for Future Success,” June 6, 2016 — https://herbweiss.blog/2016/06/06/regular-folks-give-sound-advice-to-class-of-2016-for-future-success/

“Sensible Advice from Seasoned Folk to the Class of 2015,” May 17, 2015 —https://www.golocalprov.com/news/weiss-sensible-advice-from-seasoned-folk-to-the-class-of-2015?utm_source=chatgpt.com2016-for-

“Regular Folks Give Advice to Graduates,” June 1, 2014 —https://www.golocalprov.com/lifestyle/Regular-Folks-Give-Advice-to-Graduates?utm_source=chatgpt.com

“Here’s My Advice to the Graduating Class of 2013,” May 31, 2013– https://herbweiss.blog/2013/05/31/heres-my-advice-to-the-graduating-class-of-2013/

“A Commencement Speech for the Graduates of 2012,” May 4, 2012 — https://herbweiss.blog/2012/05/04/a-commencement-speech-for-the-graduates-of-2012-5-2/

“Your Later Years: A Commencement Speech for Graduates of 2008,” June 13,  2008 —  Your Later Years: A Commencement Speech for the Graduates of 2008

Rhode Island Authors Reflect Their Publish Tomes and New Year’s Resolutions

Published in the Woonsocket Callon December 30, 2018

According to a YouGov, an internet company that conducts polls on politics, public affairs, products and brands, the most common New Year’s Resolution in 2018 was to eat healthier, get more exercise and to even save money. With New Year’s just days away, seven members of the Association of Rhode Island Authors (ARIA), give us their literary aspirations and self-improvement resolutions for 2019, many of them mirroring YouGov’s poll findings last year while sharing details about their published tomes.

Julien Ayotte, 77, of Cumberland, wrote “Code Name Lilly, a book about a young Belgian nurse becomes a key leader in the Comet Line escape network during World War II. Through clever and persuasive ways, she aids over 250 downed airmen escape the Germans.

Publisher: Kindle Digital Publishing. Price: $16 (soft cover. For details go to http://www.julienayotte.com

New Year’s Resolution: Improving my eating habits to maintain a healthier weight in the coming year and to keep moving. My philosophy has always been, “it’s harder to hit a moving target.” Walk at least a mile a day, and lift weights. Continued good health will allow me to write my 6th novel in 2019. And all I need to do to make Code Name Lily a blockbuster bestseller and major film by building my reader audience. My goal is still to write 10 books in 10 years, and I am halfway there.

Phyllis Calvey, 68, of Bellingham, Massachusetts, wrote “The Butterfly Club: Is That You?” One component of the book is the butterfly phenomenon; the intriguing fact that God has used the perfect timing of the appearance of this spiritual sign to comfort innumerable people after a loved one has died. But the signs are not only butterflies, or signs connected to a death experience. Each of the true-life stories in the book focuses on an incredible sign God used to communicate with someone. The Butterfly Club is for all who have experienced or would like to be inspired by a sign that is undoubtedly more than just a coincidence!

Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. Price: $10 (soft cover). For details, go to http://www.butterflyclubbook.com.

New Year Resolution: I believe it is the combination of nearing age 70 and having friends around me tragically dying of cancer that echoed these words of wisdom in my heart, “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given”. It brought to mind when our two children were young. We made a difficult decision to put the television away which allowed us the time to joyfully discover the wondrous gifts that had truly been given to each of us! This year I am resurrecting the spirit of using the time given to focus on writing what I believe has been imparted to me. And hopefully that same discovered joy from years’ past will be found and kept all year!

Hank Ellis, 70, of Saunderstown, wrote “The Promise: A Perilous Journey.” One afternoon in late June, two adventurous, adolescent brothers stumble upon a huge mysterious cavern protected from the elements for centuries. Using dreams and deciphering riddles, they travel through underground passageways to meet a man named Eli. Through a series of strange and supernatural encounters, the two boys rely on resourcefulness, perseverance, and love to lead them to an opportunity they could never have imagined and make a decision that will change their lives forever.

Publisher: Archway Publishing. Price: $21.99 (soft cover); $39.99 (hard cover); $2.99 (e-book). For details, go to http://www.archwaypublishing.com

New Year’s Resolution: My biggest resolution is to finish writing my second book (sequel to The Promise). But with advancing age, and more important than any book, I want to pay more attention to the needs of those around me. At the same time, I want to simplify my life, eliminate clutter, and give things away. I am blessed.

Dr. Karen Petit, 67, of Cranston, wrote: “Banking on Dreams,” “Mayflower Dreams,” “Roger Williams in an Elevator,” “Unhidden Pilgrims,” and “Holidays Amaze.” Her five books have Christian content, historic elements, suspenseful action, dream/reality sections, romance, pictures, and methods of dealing with such problems as losing weight, fighting, quitting smoking, nightmares, writer’s block, anxiety, and separation.

Publisher: WestBow Press. Price: $11.95 to $24.95 (soft cover) depending on the book; $28.95 to $39.95 (hard cover) depending on the book; $3.95 (e-books for each book). For a specific listing of book prices and details on books, go to http://www.drkarenpetit.com/.

New Year’s Resolution: To lose weight by substitution and exercise. Because I love to munch on chocolate, I’ll substitute most of my chocolate items with low-calorie hard candy. I’ll also be substituting vegetables for half of my carbohydrates. After still enjoying a little bit of the sweetness of my favorite foods, I’ll be exercising while watching TV. Being healthier will mean a sweeter, longer life. In my book “Holidays Amaze,” the last two lines of my maze poem titled “A Maze of Choices for New Year’s Day” are: “A resolution opens new doorways / for new years of fun with amazing days.”

Steven Porter, 53, of Harmony and owner of Pawtucket, Rhode Island-based Stillwater Books, wrote: “Confessions of the Meek and the Valiant,” a South Boston crime saga;” Mantises,” an adventure novel set against the mysterious history and legends of Block Island;” Scared to Death… Do it Anyway,” the story of Brian Beneduce and his lifelong work to overcome panic and anxiety attacks.

Publisher: Stillwater River Publications. Prices: $18 each (soft cover); $ 5.99 each (e-books). For more details go to http://www.stevenporter.com.

New year’s Resolution: My wife Dawn and I have been crazy-busy these past 12 months setting up our new bookstore. We’ve basically been working around the clock. Our New Year’s resolution is to simply find more time this year to relax and spend quality time at home. As 2019 approaches, Porter has three new books and a half written, and a fourth of shorter works and essays ready to go. “My resolution is to have at least two books finished and ready for the 2019 holiday season,” he says.

Richard T. Rook, of Wrentham, Massachusetts, wrote “Tiernan’s Wake.” The book is a historical mystery about a search for the “missing portrait” of the Irish Pirate Queen Grace O’Malley, but more importantly, it’s about how relationships and priorities change as we age.

Publisher: Lulu.com. Price: $15.97 (soft cover). For details go to http://www.amazon.com and search Tiernan’s Wake, or google Tiernan’s Wake.

New Year’s Resolution: Never to forget that the most important things in life are health, family and friends. If we have those, we don’t really need much else. To finish at least one sequel, listen more and talk less, and to keep my brain and body moving as much as possible.

Raymond A. Wolf, 76, of Hope, wrote a three-volume set, “Rhode Island Outhouses Today,” detailing exterior and interior color photographs of 469 outhouses discovered throughout the Ocean State, including details as when it was built and number of holes. A second five-volume set (cars from 1905 to 1949, the 1950’s, the 1960’s the 1970’s and trucks from 1921 to 1979) identifies over 1,100 cars and trucks photographed (in color) at Rhode Island cruise nights, car shows and private collections. Photo captions explain when the vehicle was purchase in or out of state, did the owner restore it or was it completely restored already, and identifies the owner, too.

Publisher: Wolf Publishing. Prices: $21.99 for each book (soft cover). For more details go to http://www.raywolfbooks.com.

New Year’s Resolution: Like previous years, his 2019 resolution is “never give up my dreams.”

The Association of Rhode Island Authors ARIA is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization of local, published writers of both fiction and non-fiction committed to raising awareness of the outstanding written works crafted by writers in Rhode Island and other nearby communities. For details about ARIA’s 340 authors or to join the organization, go to http://www.riauthors.org.

Graduating College Seniors Get Some Advice from Rhode Island’s Authors

Published in the Woonsocket Call on July 1, 2018

Throughout May and June, robed college graduates listened to commencement speeches delivered by well-known lawmakers, judges, television personalities, actors, and chief executive officers of businesses. Many of the orators advised the young adults on how to create a more rewarding personal and professional life in their later years.

Members of the Association of Rhode Island Authors (ARIA) also have insightful advice on aging gracefully in a challenging and changing world to give to the Class of 2018, and some of what the authors would have said if they had been invited to speak follows.

Hopefully, all readers will benefit from the commencement tips and find time to take a look at the authors’ books.

The ABCs of Aging Gracefully

Norman Desmarais, 71, professor emeritus at Providence College, lives in Lincoln and is an active re-enactor and a former librarian. He is the author of “The Guide to the American Revolutionary War in Canada and New England,” “The Guide to the American Revolutionary War in New York” and “The Guide to the American Revolutionary War in New Jersey.” These books intend to provide comprehensive coverage of the confrontations of the American War of Independence and to serve as a guide to the sites. For book details, go to http://www.revolutionaryimprints.net.

Commencement tips: “It’s nice to be important but more important to be nice. Remember that the people you pass climbing the ladder of success will be the same people you meet on the way down. They will often be the people you will need to be successful.

Rick Billings, 59, a retired firefighter and emergency management technician lives in Barrington. He authored and illustrated two children’s books, “The Tragic Tale of Mr. Moofs, a story about the changing relationship between a stuffed toy and a boy’s older sister and more recently “Melba Blue,” a light introduction for children on the works of Edgar Allen Poe and William Shakespeare. For book details, go to http://www.reddogart.com.

Commencement tips: “What are you waiting for? This is my mantra. I became a firefighter at age 35. I wrote, illustrated and self-published my first book 19 years later. Today, I cycle between 40 and 80 miles each week. I travel. I laugh. I love. Embrace family, nature, health, spirituality, peace, creativity and the purity of the new. What are you waiting for?”

Patricia Hinkley, 73, a former holistic counselor and journey practitioner in private practice, lives in Wakefield. She authored “Chasing Sleep/Lonely Tussles in the Dark,” a book that explores the issues and challenges surrounding sleep deprivation and how to overcome them by changing attitudes and behaviors and “Claiming Space/Finding Stillness that Inspires Action,” a book that invites you to step back from the busy world to uncover the peaceful intelligence, genuine happiness, and capabilities within. For book details, go to http://www.patriciahinkley.com.

Commencement tips: “Find what you love and do it. Learn about your world and become a part of positive change. Respect and peacefully negotiate with people who differ from you. Know history, government and civics. Involve yourself to make a better world. Trust your heart’s wisdom when deciding what is right. Speak up for it.”

Hank Ellis, 69, formerly employed by the Rhode Island Department of Environmental Management, lives in Exeter. He authored “The Promise: A perilous Journey,” a book appealing to all ages and a must-read for those who love the magic of a childhood adventure. For book details, go to Amazon.

Commencement tips: “Know what is important to you: happiness or wealth. You can have both, but it can be more difficult. Be open to change, roll with the punches and don’t punch back. Always be kind. Be brave and stretch yourself. The greatest advice I can give is to give of yourself. Serve others in all you do. I guarantee amazing results.”

Barbara Ann Whitman, 62, a family support specialist, lives in Johnston. She authored “Have Mercy,” a book about the effects foster care can have on a child. For book details, go to http://www.facebook.com/BarbaraAnnWhitmanAuthor.

Commencement tips: “Before you can be kind to others, you must first be kind to yourself.
If you want to be honest, start with the person in the mirror.The same principle applies to being authentic, loyal and loving. Being selfless is overrated. Indulge and invest in knowing yourself.
Only then will you be ready to share your gifts with the world.”

Etta Zasloff, 70, lives in Hope Valley. She published an alphabet book for all ages on her 70th birthday, “Beginning with Xs and Os: The Evolution of Alphabet.” It’s a child’s first chapter book! Personified letters change, rearrange, and interchange in rhyming stories of origin. For book details, go to ettazasloff.com

Commencement tips: “Live, really live. Look out the window more than in the mirror or at your phone. Explore the world. Engage with people beyond your immediate circle. Pursue your passion with education, experience and practice to mastery. Have the courage to forge your own path and leave a trail for others to follow. Always think of those who follow.”

Harris N. (“Hershey”) Rosen, 85, ran a Pawtucket-based candy company for 40 years before retiring. He lives in Providence, and he authored “My Family Record Book,” providing easy tips on organizing personal information, financial plans and final wishes for seniors, caregivers, estate executors, etc. For book details, go to myfamilyrecordbook.com.

Commencement tips: “Achievement is 90 percent perspiration and 10 percent inspiration. So in life, find your purpose in something you enjoy and don’t be afraid to aim high. Look around for help and value your network of friends you made in college. Persist in realizing your goal, knowing that it’s OK to fail (you will) but not to quit. You’ll get there; I promise.”

BJ Knapp, 44, a former college radio station disc jockey, lives in Coventry. She authored “Beside the Music.” Image if a washed up 80s metal band moved in to your house. It happens to Brenda and Time in “Besides the Music.” Can Brenda be one man’s wife and another man’s muse. For book details, go to http://www.bjknapp.com.

Commencement tips: “Never forget how to laugh at yourself, how to be silly and how to make others laugh. Laughter is great for your abs, for your soul and for your relationships. And it’s not all about you. Don’t turn every situation around so it’s about you. Most of the time it’s about someone else, and it’s up to you to be supportive of that person. They will do the same for you when it really is all about you.”

Alison O’Donnell, 52, a freelance editor, proofreader and ghostwriter, lives in Pawtucket. She authored “Stupid Cupid~ A Survivor’s Guide to Online Dating.” The book has a sarcastic slant toward online dating, chronicling 100 really bad dates followed by a moral learned experience from each experience. For book details, go to http://www.facebook.com/AuthorAlisonODonnell.

Commencement tips: “Do not fear your own power! There are people who will try to beat you down; rise above it. There are people who will use their power to beat you down. Go around it. Then, mentally thank them for the life lesson. There are people who will support you. Show gratitude. Your success will have been earned. Embrace it.”

Michael A. Battey, 65, a podiatrist, lives in East Greenwich. He authored “The Parent Trap, Vol. 1,” the first of a two-volume collection of humorous and insightful observations on contemporary teen parenting. For book details, go to http://www.parenttrapcolumns.com.

Commencement tips: “There is a power to kindness.There is no act, which you can choose, which will be more powerful. It is stronger than the most reasoned logic. It can vanquish the sharpest wit. Deceptive at times and preternaturally puzzling, it is your best ally. It elevates discussions and makes you a better person. It is defining, and it is memorable.”

L. A. Jacob, 50, a government claims auditor for CVS, lives in Central Falls. She authored “Grimaulkin,” a book about a young wizard who was sent to prison for summoning demons. Now he’s out trying to be a better man, but others want to use his knowledge and abilities – against his parole. For book details, go to http://www.paperangelpress.com/pages/books/grimaulkin.php.

Commencement tips: “I published my first book at 48, but I’ve been writing since I was 15. Why did I wait so long? Because I was afraid. Afraid of what my family would say about me, of how the book would be received. Here’s my advice: Don’t wait. Life is too short. Buy the darn shoes you love.”

Phyllis Calvey, 68, an educator and story teller who lives in Bellingham, MA. Her latest book, “The Butterfly Club,” presents real people’s stories of how God can, and does, use signs to communicate His presence to those in need. For book details, go to http://www.butterflyclubbook.com.

Commencement Tips: “The odds were probably a thousand to one to be published, and yet I quit my job to be a writer. My Dad said, “You could be the one. How much does a book sell for these days? $6.95? When you sell a million, that’s…” But all I heard was the word “when”, it immediately seemed to change the odds!”

For more information about the ARIA, go to http://www.riauthors.org.