New report re-examines workplace policies and caregiving

Published in RINewsToday on June 10, 2024

As a newly released AARP and S&P Global report notes, working while being a caregiver is complicated.  While the researchers say that since the previously issued report in 2020, US employers have stepped up to the plate to offer access to caregiving benefits.  However, much more must be done. 

Since the 2020 AARP and S&P Global’s last report, employers have become attuned to the needs of working parents over the past decade and especially during the pandemic, and are now moving from awareness to action in providing support for employees with adult caregiving responsibilities.

Taking a look at caregiver employees

The report’s authors say this study “explores the workplace experiences of caregivers and how they use employer provided benefits and policies to remain successful at work while providing care at home. It reveals not only the challenges of balancing work and caregiving, but also how the right workplace policies can ease the burdens.”

According to the new analysis conducted last December by AARP and S&P Global, the unpredictable nature of caregiving for an adult is one of the biggest stressors the caregiver employee faces.  Sixty seven percent of family caregivers have a very difficult time balancing work with their caregiver responsibilities.  

Half of the working caregiver respondents reported having to make work scheduling changes, (including going in early, leaving late, or just taking time off because of caregiving responsibilities), the findings indicated.

The findings indicate that workers are even reducing hours at work.  Twenty seven percent of working caregivers have shifted from full-time to part-time work or have even reduced hours, while 16% have turned down a promotion.

Meanwhile the findings indicated that 16% have stopped working entirely for a period of time — and 13% have changed employers — in order to meet their caregiving responsibilities.

With the nation’s number of adults ages 65-plus projected to surpass the population of children by 2030, the report warns that US employers must continue to offer policies and benefits that are friendly and supportive of adult caregivers to keep them in the workforce.

In order to get a handle on the needs of working caregivers and understand the importance of employer benefits for balancing work and family care obligations, in 2023 AARP and S&P Global surveyed 1,200 self-identified caregivers who worked full-time or part-time at large US companies (employing more than 1,000 employees) and who provide at least six hours of care each week to an adult.

It’s complicated – being a working caregiver 

There were other key highlights from the Working while caregiving: It’s complicated report.  

Eighty percent of the survey caregiver respondents believe that companies were more understanding of childcare issues – rather than adult caregiving responsibilities.  The researchers say that this is particularly the case among caregivers who have an under-18 child at home and they have recent experience of both caregiving situations. Those caregivers without children reported less satisfaction with company support than caregivers with children (69% versus 89%, respectively).

For those working remotely, the survey’s findings indicate that they were more likely to feel penalized or discriminated against at work because of caregiving responsibilities when compared to in-office or hybrid workers (49% versus a combined average of 29%). The researchers say that this might reflect employer challenges in assessing and engaging with remote employees’ work-life needs.

Finally, the study found that among working caregivers providing more than 21 hours of care a week, 37% say they are experiencing significantly increased difficulty due to inflation. And for those providing fewer than 10 hours of care, 25% say inflation has made providing care significantly more difficult.

According to AARP, previous AARP research shows that of the nearly 48 million family caregivers in the US, 61% are juggling both work and caregiving responsibilities, including assistance with daily living activities, medical or nursing tasks, coordinating services and supports, transportation, shopping, and serving as an advocate for their care recipient. Most family caregivers provide at least 20 hours of care each week, equal to an unpaid part-time job.

The new report’s findings found that access to a flexible work schedule at the time of caregiving increased from 32% in 2020 to 45% in 2023. Additionally, the availability of caregiving policies or benefits increased in every category except unpaid leave. 

“As the backbone of America’s long-term care system, providing $600 billion every year in unpaid labor, family caregivers need and deserve greater support from their own employers,” said Susan Reinhard, Senior Vice President and Director of AARP Public Policy Institute, in a May 16th statement announcing the release of the 21 page report’s findings.  “As our population ages, it’s critical that employers support family caregivers in the workforce with the policies, such as paid leave, that can ease their everyday burdens,” she said.

“Despite the progress observed since 2020, the latest data shows the majority of employees with adult caregiving responsibilities continue to face barriers at balancing work and caregiving obligations and need greater support from employers through enhanced benefits and policies to stay engaged in the workforce,” noted Alexandra Dimitrijevic, Co-chair of S&P Global Research Council. “Employers can help by paying forward-looking attention to employee needs and the demographics shift of the workforce in the coming years,” she added.

Best Practices to support working caregivers

The report’s authors say that employers can do more to support working caregivers and detail best practices that companies can take to support their employees. 

They call on companies to consider offering and support flexible schedules and flexible work locations either hybrid/remote. Employer-supported access to support groups, career coaching and financial advising resources could be offered.  Paid leave specifically for caregivers and/or flexible leave can be used to help with caregiving duties, they suggest.

Yes, information is power.  Companies could host free sessions to highlight how caregiving employees can optimize employer benefits and policies, as a way to address the lack of awareness in using benefits.  Senior leaders could be asked to share their stories as to how they have used the company’s caregiver-supportive benefits and policies, signaling to both people managers and their teams that they are encouraged to use them.

The report’s authors urge companies to train people managers on caregiver-inclusive managerial practices and ensure that they are aware of caregiver-supportive benefits and policies. They must make it clear that it is safe to use them all without incurring career risk.

Finally, companies can start or support an Employee Resource Group (ERG) for parents and caregivers or create a caregiving initiative across all ERGs. 

To view the full 2024 report:

https://www.spglobal.com/en/research-insights/featured/special-editorial/working-while-caregiving.

To view the 2020 report:

Click to access somethingsgottagive_spgiaarp.pdf

For details on caregiving: 

Click to access full-report-caregiving-in-the-united-states.doi.10.26419-2Fppi.00103.001.pdf

Someone’s trash is a military family’s treasure: Ours

Published in RINewsToday on June 3, 2024

Everyone is aware that the internet can have its negative impact on cybersurfers.  Just log in and you’ll see a widespread distribution of fake news, cyber-bullying, on-line threats, cyber-theft, revenge and child porn.  Its use can even lead to internet addiction.

But the internet can also be a valuable tool for sharing information, researching issues, even locating long-lost friends and family members.  As I recently found out, the net was used to return my father’s olive green foot locker – issued during World War II – to me.

This foot locker was found on a street curb in Detroit, Michigan, ultimately to find its way back to this writer residing in Pawtucket, Rhode Island.  Seven hundred miles separate these two cities.  And it’s been over 80 years since my father packed his personal items, extra uniforms, and toiletries into it. 

Introductions…

At 11:30 p.m. on April 24, 2024,  I received a Facebook chat message from a person I have never met. “Mr. Weiss, I found an old army trunk in Detroit with the name, Lt. Frank M. Weiss, stenciled on the front side of the olive green trunk,” stated Michael, a Detroit resident, excitedly sharing a photo of the foot locker resting in the back of his pickup truck.    

Michael would later tell me that he was driving around his neighborhood “looking for scrap” that he would sell, and watched a person drag the old military footlocker to the curb. The former owner’s name was “Lt. Frank M. Weiss,” and it was prominently painted on its front. This caught Michael’s attention.  He later told me that he learned that this trunk had been stored in a garage in his neighborhood – for almost 60 years.

This foot locker might be a great piece of décor for somebody’s apartment, he remembers thinking before stopping to pick it up off the curb.  It would be easy to sell, too, he thought.

Michael went home and showed it to his girlfriend, Cetaura, suggesting that it  might sell quickly at a local flea market to bring extra cash into their household. “It would be a great decorative piece for someone to buy,” he said, thinking someone might turn it into a coffee table.

“Out of curiosity my girlfriend searched the internet,” Michael told me, “seeking more details about the life of Lt. Frank M. Weiss.”  Was he an American hero, they wondered?

Cetaura quickly found an article that I had previously written about World War II vets dying (“In coming years, generations of older veterans will be leaving us”).  The article was dedicated to Second Lt. Frank M. Weiss, my father.  So, the net search gave Cetaura and Michael a lead.  There might be a family connection between therem they speculated, contacting me through Facebook to confirm.

And amazingly, yes, there was.

Confirming Proof of Ownership

I told Michael that my parents lived in Detroit, Michigan, during World War II.  They were married in that city in 1942.  With my grandfather, Samuel Weller, being a prominent defense attorney, almost every Detroit judge attended their wedding. 

My father was drafted into the military service and would serve in military bases around the country (including the 1033rd Technical School Squadron, Kearus, Utah, the 357thTechnical School Squadron at Jefferson Barracks, St. Louis, Missouri, 3705th AAF Base Unit, Lowry Field, Denver, Colorado, and the Army Air Forces Technical Training Command, Miami Beach, Florida).  He entered the U.S. Army Air Force at the rank of private and left the military as a Second Lt.

Michael said he would give me the footlocker and I paid to have it shipped to my residence in Rhode Island.  While I waited for this footlocker to arrive, I  was attempting to verify that it really had belonged to my father.  Of course, I wanted to be 100 percent sure that it was his.

The Detroit Public Library confirmed that after the war my parents moved from Detroit to Saginaw in 1946, and then relocated to Grand Rapids in the 1950s.  They would ultimately move to Dallas, Texas in 1951. But it seems that his military footlocker remained in Detroit, never reaching his new home in North Dallas.  

I wondered, could the foot locker have belonged to another “Lt. Frank M. Weiss?”   A research librarian confirmed that they could identify only one Frank M. Weiss in Detroit in the 1940s.  The others with Frank Weiss’s identified had different middle initials.  But could I consider this as total proof?

After the footlocker arrived, I closely examined  a faded mailing label on its top.  By enlarging the label with Photoshop, my graphic designer was able to identify my father’s Detroit mailing address, 16841 Wildemere Avenue,  (which matched the address in his military records) on the label.  Now I was convinced that this trunk was owned by my father.   

Because of the kindness of Michael and Cetaura, I was able to thank them for their tireless efforts to locate the family of Second Lt. Frank M. Weiss. My father’s military footlocker has finally come home.  It was empty but today it contains the folded American Flag we received at his funeral, his scrapbook of faded pictures of his comrades and assigned bases from his long-ago days in the military and memorabilia, all safely in his footlocker.  Now it is truly a treasure chest.

Special thanks to the librarians at the DPL’s special collections for their assistance in verifying the ownership of the military footlocker.

Stoic tips for the Class of 2024

Published in RINewsToday May 27, 2024

Throughout May, across the nation at colleges and universities, commencement addresses are being given by well-known politicians, judges, television or radio personalities, actors, and even Fortune 500 CEOs. These commencement speakers, offering sound advice and inspiration gleaned from personal life experiences, provide advice to graduating seniors as to how they can successfully navigate both their personal lives and professional careers throughout the years ahead. 

These speeches, traditionally about 10 minutes in length (up to 2,500 words), will vary widely, and can either be serious or lighthearted, but they should all be authentic, motivational, and informative.

Over the years, as I have stated in previous commencement speech articles that I have penned, I have called for “regular folks” who have overcome obstacles throughout their lives to be invited speakers.  One year I put the spotlight on Rhode Island authors, noting that they had valuable insights to share.  

This week, I offer my commencement speech, giving the graduating seniors advice, pulling from stoicism, a school of Hellenistic philosophy that thrived in Ancient Greece and Ancient Rome.

According to Wikipedia, Stoic philosophers were known for their teaching that “virtue is the only good” for human beings, and that health, wealth, and pleasure, are not good or bad in themselves, but have value as “material for virtue to act upon.”

To the Graduating Class of 2024…

Ladies and gentlemen, esteemed faculty members, proud parents, and most importantly, the graduating class of 2024: Congratulations! 

This day marks a very significant milestone in your life’s journey. Today, you must reflect not just on your past achievements and failures, but also on the philosophies and values that have and will now guide you throughout the journey that lies ahead. Today, I want to share with you some timeless wisdom from the Greek and Roman Stoic philosophers, whose teachings offer invaluable insights into how to navigate the complexities of life with resilience, wisdom, and virtue.

Incorporating Stoicism’s timeless principles will provide you with a philosophical framework for confronting life’s complexities by pursuing a path of fulfillment and virtue. And what is Stoicism, you say? This philosophy emphasizes resilience in the face of adversity. It also calls for focusing on what is within your control, embracing change, and cultivating your virtue and character.

Stoic philosophers also encourage you to align your values to find meaning and purpose in your life, to maintain inner peace, and to appreciate the beauty and wonder of the world around you. 

So now I provide you with sound advice from prominent Stoic philosophers that you can ponder and, if you choose, put into practice.

First and foremost, remember the words of Epictetus, a former slave in Hierapolis (modern-day Turkey) around 50 CE, who became one of the most renowned Greek Stoic philosophers: “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”  Yes, life is full of surprises and unexpected challenges. While you may not be in control over external events, you most certainly have control of how you respond to them. Embrace each obstacle that comes your way with courage and resilience and remain committed to your values, these hurtles ultimately becoming opportunities for personal and spiritual growth.  

Epictetus also said: “The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.” As you begin the new chapter of your life, surround yourself with people who share your values and aspirations that will uplift, inspire and support your personal and professional growth. Cherish the relationships that enrich your life and let go of those that no longer serve you.

Cultivate a sense of gratitude

Additionally, Epictetus urged fostering meaningful connections and cultivating a sense of gratitude throughout your life. As he observed, “He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” Be grateful for the blessings, both big and small, that come to you each day. Throughout your life cultivate empathy, be kind and compassionate to others. In every situation you find yourself in, strive to leave a positive impact on those around you.   

Seneca the Younger, who lived in the 1st century CE, called for the cultivation of the virtue of equanimity (emotional stability) that allows one to respond to situations with clarity and exposure. As the Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman and playwright aptly said, “True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future.”  Don’t become consumed by worry and anxiety about future obstacles you may face, because in all probability these problems will never happen.  Embrace the here and now, (As Ram Das says, “BE HERE NOW”) and know that you do have the ability to handle whatever challenges the future brings your way.  

Pursue excellence, not perfection    

Furthermore, prioritize the pursuit of excellence over the pursuit of perfection, recommends Stoic Philosopher Marcus Aurelius, a Roman Emperor who ruled from 161 to 180 CE. He is best known for reminding us that “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” Don’t fixate on meeting unrealistic standards of perfection, but focus on making continuous steady improvements and personal growth. Throughout your life continue to learn from each and every mistake, refining and sharpening your skills. Always strive to become the best version of yourself. 

Aurelius, best known for his philosophical work “Meditations,” is also known for this Stoic quote: “When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive to breath, think, enjoy, and love.”  Don’t worry about things that could go wrong, but remember to enjoy what life has to offer. When beset by problems, remember that your life is a precious gift and a privilege “to breathe, think, enjoy, and love.”

Lastly, embrace and accept the inevitability of change. As the Stoic Greek philosopher, Heraclitus famously said, “The only constant in life is change. Rather than resisting the natural flow of life, learn to embrace it with grace and humility,” he urged. Life’s uncertainty gives you an opportunity for growth. Trust in your ability to adapt to life’s curve balls thrown at you and you will thrive in the face of change. Heraclitus says that true strength lies not in resisting, but in embracing change as an essential part of the human experience.

As you embark on your journey ahead, remember that the teachings of Stoic philosophy offers a timeless roadmap for living a life of purpose, meaning, and fulfillment. Embrace the challenges, cherish the moments, and above all, stay true to your values and principles that guide you.

Congratulations once again, Class of 2024! May your futures be filled with personal and professional success, happiness, and an unwavering commitment to living with wisdom and virtue. Thank you.

For more details about Stoicism, go to https://www.dummies.com/article/body-mind-spirit/philosophy/general-philosophy/stoicism-for-dummies-cheat-sheet-301382/.

To see examples of some of the Stoic quotes to help you on make the most of your  life’s journey, go to: 72 of the best stoic quotes from Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus and more.