Grandparents Take an Active role in Parenting and Caregiving

Published in Pawtucket Times on August 12, 2002

Susan Sweet, an elder rights advocate and a full-time consultant to nonprofit groups, has a jam-packed schedule that consumes much of her time.

However, the East Providence resident puts her two small grandchildren at the top of her schedule.

Grandparenting is the best time in Sweet’s life, who noted this role allows her to share both life experiences and wisdom with Zackary, age seven and a half and his sister Erika Lee, who is almost 10 months.

“My job as a grandparent is to expose Zackary and Erika Lee to things that they would not other wise be exposed to,” the 61-year-old Sweet says.

New experiences with the youngish grandmother include exposure to the world of music, art and cultural and ethnic diversity of the world.

With her grandchildren living on Cape Cod, Sweet keeps in constant contact through e-mail and telephone calls. Zachary visits grandma every two weeks, where she takes him out and about the Providence Children’s Museum, Waterfire and even to the aquarium in Mystic, Conn. Erika will get her turn to visit Sweet when she gets older.

“Grandparents are magical to their grandchildren,” especially those who don’t have the burden of everyday parenting responsibilities, Sweet insists. Moreover, the elder generation becomes the repository of a family’s history, where grandchildren can learn where they came from.

Like Sweet, grandparents across the nation are becoming actively involved with intergenerational parenting and caregiving, and this role is becoming more commonplace.

A newly released AARP study finds that aging baby boomers and seniors are taking a more active role in raising their grandchildren.

Almost half of those surveyed were under 50 when their first grandchild was born. The ages of those surveyed ranged from 45 6o 100 years, with a mean age of 64.

According to the AARP study, today’s grandparents believe they are teaching their grandchildren values and family history, entertaining them and listening to their problems.

About 68 percent of those surveyed see a grandchild every one or two weeks, and almost 24 percent say they see their grandchild from once a month to once every few months.

However, the study found that a principal barrier to more frequent contact was living too far away – almost 45 percent of the respondents said their grandchildren live more than 200 miles away from them. Another barrier to frequent contact was the grandchildren’s busy schedules (22 percent).

In those case, grandparents reach out and touch a loved one by phone – eight in 10 grandparents (80 percent) contacted a grandchild by telephone at least once every couple of weeks.  A smaller number (12 percent) reported using traditional mail  (i.e. letters, greeting cards, or videos) at least once every couple weeks, and 54 percent sent traditional mail at least every few  months.

The AARP survey found the most popular topics of conversation between grandparents and grandchildren are issues relating to school (84 percent), morals or values (78 percent), planning future visits (72 percent) and daily activities (72 percent).

However, conversations between grandparents and their grandchildren did not shy away from sensitive topics.

Almost 65 percent speak with their grandchildren about religion and spirituality. Conversations also centered on cigarettes (47 percent), alcohol (43 percent) and illegal drug use (45 percent). Almost a quarter (24 percent) said they talk with their grandchildren about sex.

Grandparents are also providing significant financial support for their grandchildren on a day-today basis. On average, grandparents report they spend $500 a year on their grandchildren with many spending money on their basic daily needs. About 52 percent provide financial help with the educational needs of their grandchildren, and almost 45 percent report they hep with living expenses. Meanwhile, about 25 percent say they assist with a grandchild’s medical expenses.

Fifteen percent of grandparents reported they provide child day-care services for their grandchildren to assist the working parent, nearly 24 percent of those also say they provide such care at least once a week to once every couple of weeks while the parents are not at work. Almost 80 percent who provide child care are looking after one or two grandchildren; another 17 percent care for as many as three or four grandchildren.

Finally, the survey finds that grandparents of all ages are involved in some form of physical activity with their grandchildren. More than half (53 percent) have exercised or played sports with their grandchildren within the past six months, and at least half in each age group engage in such activities with grandchildren.

Seniors Must Educate Themselves to Push for Political Policy Reforms   

Published in the Pawtucket Times on July 22, 2002

Did you go to the Bristol 4th of July parade?

Or perhaps were you one of hundreds of people who gathered at Slater Mill Historic Site to hear U.S. Rep. Patrick Kennedy’s announce his bid for re-election.

If you attended one of these events or one of the hundreds of others scattered throughout the Ocean State, you probably ended up meeting gubernatorial, legislative, statewide or congressional candidates who were seeking high visibility with voters and potential votes from old friends and new acquaintances.

The clock is ticking.

With about seven weeks before the Sept. 10 primary, Rhode Island political candidates are scrambling to fill up their calendars with the dates of hundreds of “must-attend” events.

Political wisdom tells us that these candidates are more responsive to attending coffees, festivals and events that will attract older voters. This is because seniors as a group tend to get to the polls more often than other younger demographic groups. Years of research on voting trends bear this out.

According to the Bureau of the Census, in the 1996 presidential election, voter turnout among Americans 65 and older was 67 percent, only 10 percent lower than their registration rate of 77 percent. In that presidential election cycle, voter registration and turnout for Americans 50 and over was about the same as for Americans over age 65 (64.4 percent). Yet only 31 percent of voters between the ages of 18 and 20 cast a vote in the presidential election of 1996.

Can this trend take hold for the 2002 Rhode Island elections? You bet.

The question is – are federal and state policy makers prepared to confront the changes that will occur with an aging America?

In the next Congress, both Republican and Democratic leadership must work closely together to develop sound aging policy initiatives.

Federal lawmakers must quickly come to grips with how to assist seniors to pay for costly long-term care while ensuring quality services are provided.  They must continue their efforts to hammer out a bipartisan law to make pharmaceutical drugs more affordable and to keep both Medicare and Socially Security financially solvent.

At the state level, the Gray Panthers of Rhode Island working in collaboration with the Rhode Island Forum on Aging and the Rhode Island Minority Elder Task Force, move to educate senior voters about state and federal aging issues. Funded by the Rhode Island Foundation, the Senior Agenda/Election 2002 project will identify priority state and federal aging issues, solicit candidate positions through a questionnaire and hold four regional forums to further discuss positions.

Become an educated voter. Learn more about the aging issues of important to you by carefully reading the political candidate’s positions in the written materials to be made available to you by the Senior Agenda/Election 2002 project.

At coffees, festivals and political events that you attend before the September primary and up to the November election, tell any gubernatorial, statewide or legislative candidates you meet to make further reforms net year to the state’s pharmaceutical program (RIPAE). Tell them about the need for assisted living facilities for moderate and low-income seniors and affordable housing options for frail and low-income seniors.

With the backdrop of the November election, Rhode Island lawmakers and Congress must continue their efforts to develop and implement programs and services especially geared to an aging society.

Aging as a policy and political issue will ultimately have an impact on every generation from today’s seniors, their aging baby boomers children, and finally to their young grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Being an educated voter, especially one who consistently votes, is likely to gain points with a political candidate and with those who ultimately are elected to office.

The Best Of…Seniors Can follow Steps to Avoid Heat-Related Illnesses

Published July 8., 2002, Pawtucket Times

On July 3rd, it was so hot you could fry an egg on the pavement outside of McCoy Stadium.

Although more than 10,500 fans had bought tickets to watch the PawSox game against the Ottawa Lynx, which concluded with a 45-minute fireworks display, only 8,300 fans showed up, according to Ken McGill, co-chair of teh Pawtucket Fireworks Committee.

There were even smaller crowds who set up chairs in the parking lots and on sidewalks in the surrounding neighborhoods around McCoy Stadium to watch the much-awaited fireworks display, McGill said.

But despite the searing heat that evening it was clear that some just like it hot.

As the PawSox game was winding down, Ray Ethier, 60, a former union electrician, chatted with his friend, George Panas, 59, of Spumoni’s Restaurant.

“I don’t mind the heat.  I just don’t like this humidity,” he candidly admitted.  However, Ethier acknowledged that the heat has slowed him down a bit, because “it’s too hot to play golf.”

Panas doesn’t mind the searing outside heat either, or even working in a hot kitchen.

“When people are sweating buckets in the kitchen, I feel as cool as a cucumber,” he said.

Fifty-seven-year old Stan Lachut, a retired Pawtucket school teacher, waited with his wife Beverly, for darkness and for the fireworks show to begin. Standing by the barbecue tent and surrounded by more than 200-plus guests of the Pawtucket Firework’s Committee, the Cumberland residents said the heat’s not a problem for him, either.

“Being outside in summer is a time you can spend with your family and friends,” he said, whereas “colder temperatures force people to stay inside buildings.”

On the other hand, not everybody like summer’s hot days

Ttemperatures in the mid-90s, combined with high humidity, can become uncomfortable and a serious health hazard for seniors.  And many are heeding the advice of experts gleaned from radio, television, and local newspaper articles about how to cope with the scorching summer heat.

Patricia A. Nolan, M.D.,  the state’s top health official, gave her advise on surviving Rhode Island’s current heat wave.

Seniors, small children and the mentally ill are the most susceptible to health problems from searing summer heat waves, said Nolan, who serves as the director of Rhode Island’s Department of health.  High temperatures can be especially dangerous to persons’ with cardiac and respiratory probems and to mentally ill patients taking psychotropic medications, she said.

She noted that psychotropic medications make it harder for an individual to cool down.

According to Noran, the early symptoms of heat-related illnesses include muscle cramps in the arms, hands, abdomen and legs.  Muscle cramps are a result of dehydration and salt loss, primary problems associated with heat stress.  Additionally, Nolan said that fainting in the heat is another early symptom

If someone faints because of the heat, take the person into a cool place and cool them off by using a wet, cool cloth, Nolan recommends.

“You want to sponge people down and fan them to reduce their body heat,” she says.

Heat exhaustion, or heat-stork, is a more serious problem related to dehydration caused from high temperatures Nolan stated.  “Feelings of complete exhaustion, confusion, nausea or vomiting are real danger signs,” she said, adding, “If this occurs, you must get the body temperature down by addition fluids through intravenous methods.”

To successfully beat the heat, seniors should cut back on outside physical activities and drink plenty of water, Nolan recommends.

While water is the best fluid to drink on a hot day, fruit juice can also be considered a viable substitute.

“Cooling off with a cold beer is not the best plan,” Nolan said, noting that alcohol coffee, tea and soda are loaded with caffeine, which can increase the changes of dehydration.

“Seniors who tend to be most vulnerable to heat are those who don’t have a way to get cool for a part of the day,” Nolan said.  “One of the reasons heat waves affect the elderly more than the general population is because seniors are isolated, can’t get to a cool place, don’t have air conditioning and are afraid to open their windows at night when it finally cools down.”

Nolan warned that with temperatures in the mid-90s, staying indoors in a really hot house or apartment is not the best thing for seniors to do.

“Go to an air-conditioned shopping mall, see a movie, visit a restaurant, or get yourself into an air-conditioned space,” she recommended.  “If you can do this for an hour on a really hot day, you can protect yourself from serious health-related problems.”

Sometimes seniors get into trouble during days with high temperatures because they just don’t realize the danger,” Nolan noted.

During these days, it becomes important to monitor elderly parents or older friends, she says.

“Call on them every day to make sure they are coping with the heat.  Take them out to a cool place, like a shopping mall, a library, or a restaurant to let them cool off.”

In Rhode Island, some seniors tend not to adjust their behaviors to the heat because it’s only going to be hot for a few days,” Nolan says.

However, adjustments are fairly easy to make, she noted, stating that not making them can be hazardous to their health, and perhaps even deadly.

Herb Weiss is a Pawtucket-based freelance writer who writes about aging, health care and medical issues. He can be reached at hweissri@aol.com.