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Regular Folks Give Advice to Graduates

Published in Pawtucket Times, May 23, 2014

This month, commencement speakers at Rhode Island’s Colleges and Universities will give the Class of 2014 their tips on how they can successfully find their professional niche, in a state with the distinction of having the worst employment rate in the nation and continues to be one of the last states to see an economic revival.  Rhode Islanders are also known for their inferiority complex and general attitude about the quality of life in the state.

Robed graduating seniors will sit listening closely to commencement speeches, given by very well-known lawmakers, judges, television personalities and Business CEOs, detailing their observations and advice, and how if closely followed, just might give the graduates a more rewarding personal and professional life.

 Typically a commencement speech (the length being about 10 minutes) is given by a notable, successful, stimulating figure well-known in the community, nationally or internationally. While some colleges and universities may enhance their prestige by bringing in high-profile speakers (University of Rhode Island, Rhode Island School of Design, Roger Williams University, and Providence College) sometimes at great cost, others like Brown University, unique among Ivy League institutions, features graduating seniors, rather than outside dignitaries, as their commencement speakers. This year, Rhode Island College,
under graduate and graduate commencement speakers are Rhode Islanders.

So, I say to Presidents of Colleges and Universities, with your tight budgets you can save a little money by not bringing in high paid commencement speakers. As can be seen below, there are many potential    commencement speakers in local communities throughout the state who fly below the radar screen and can give college graduates sound strategies for success gleaned from their life experiences. They give road maps on how one can live a more healthy fulfilling life, mature in a way to realize their potential and age gracefully in a challenging and quickly changing world.

Jesse Nemerofsky, 60, Providence, Professional Commercial Photographer. “Always remember that everyone you meet in life can be a potential or future client. This being said, a positive introduction of yourself is a valuable way to be called to work together on projects, even to be hired for future jobs. George H. W. Bush, 41st President of the United States, has stated in interviews that when he meets someone he gets their business card, and at birthdays, Christmas time, or when the person is honored, he sends them a personal note. By taking time to acknowledge people over the lifetime of his career, the former President is highly respected by those he has encountered, even if his political position or business venture was successful or not.   Honesty and representing your capabilities is of course of the utmost importance, and small gestures like sending a personal note can ultimately have great impact, but excellence in your work should be your main goal.”

Michael Cassidy, 66, Pawtucket, Retired. “As you go into the ‘real’ world from the sheltered ‘world of college’ don’t be too quick to judge the new people you meet in the work place.  People come in all types, sizes, shapes, temperaments, personalities, ages, and backgrounds; and they all have their own experiences from which you can learn. If you are smart enough to listen to what others have to offer, you can learn from them not only what to do, but what not to do. And most times learning what not to do is the most valuable lesson you can have.”

Olon Reeder, 55, North Providence, Reeder Associates Public Relations. “Become adaptable to constant changes in your life. Today’s global environment demands that you must become faster, better and smarter and compete with yourself and everyone else to survive socially. You have to embrace non-stop learning, empower yourself with your own resources, have an independent attitude and create value for who you really are and what you want to be to shape your quality of life for the future!”

Michelle Godin, 50, Vice President, New England Economic Development Services, Inc. “Live each day of your life with integrity. Whether in your personal life or professional life, integrity will define you as a person.  Never waiver.  When your days on earth are ended, it is your integrity that others will remember.   Those who live with integrity will be fondly remembered and missed, because with integrity comes many other admirable qualities such as compassion, empathy, tolerance, and understanding.  Those lacking integrity will be discussed with disdain and quickly forgotten.  Choose to become exemplary.”

Paul Audette, 85, Pawtucket, semi-retired businessman. “The Youth of today — from puberty to whatever age one reaches maturity – tend to see life as it pertains to them, yet each person is responsible for him or herself.  While the youth may have the knowledge, they lack the life experience which is the main factor in making good sound judgments that ultimately affect (your) well-being as well as that of your loved ones. While experience cannot be taught, it cannot be overlooked as a major component in making sound decisions that affect your future.experience comes from living – and life is a journey.”

Joan Retsinas, 67, Providence, a writer. “Savor, savor, savor. Savor the sunshine, and the rain. Savor your friends, your family, your colleagues. Nurture the people close to you. Be a friend. Fall in love. If you fall out of love, fall in again. Read “Winnie the Pooh” to a child. Eat ice cream. Ride a bike. Swim in the ocean. Laugh. As for fame, fortune, and success, don’t fret. They don’t really matter.”

Rick Wahlberg, 61, Senior Project Manager, Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island. Be Useful, there is no feeling like making the world a better place. Be Aware, strike a balance between career, family, friends, and community. Be Grateful for what you have, don’t be jealous of what you don’t have, and share.

Wendy Jencks, 61, Cumberland, Visitor Center Manager, Blackstone Valley Visitor Center. “There may be a time in young people’s lives when they are nervous to take a risk, don’t be afraid to take a chance. If an opportunity/life experience arises and you want it, take it even if it is unconventional. You may not get another opportunity again. Also, a person’s first job is not the end all be all. Your dream job may actually be something you did not study. People confine themselves to their own walls.”

Larry Sullivan, 49, Pawtucket, Director, Net Compliance Solution’s technical & consulting services. “Recognize opportunity. If you can’t identify opportunities, then they are very likely to sneak past you unnoticed. Most people’s search criteria is so narrow in focus that it can essentially blind them to opportunities available right in front of their face. It’s the old “can’t see the forest for the trees” scenario. Also, see yourself as a valuable asset. Your self-image will make a huge difference in the type of opportunities you attract to yourself. If you see yourself as a valuable asset, and you present yourself as such, others will see you that way as well.”

Denise Panichas, 50, Woonsocket, Executive Director of The Samaritans of Rhode Island. “Respect cannot be given when asked for, it has to be earned.” This is something you learn later in life. How do you earn respect from those around you? By being true to yourself – your values, beliefs and most importantly to your commitments to family, friends and the community.”

Ken McGill, 51, Pawtucket, Register of Voters, City of Pawtucket. “Find time to give back to your community. In the years to come you will be looking for a good job, getting married, having children and getting on with life. Never forget those in need in your community. Mentoring children, giving time to a soup kitchen, volunteering to help civic groups in your city or town or just helping a neighbor will give you more reward than any salary or position in the corporate world.“

Gail Solomon, 59, Pawtucket, Gail Solomon, Inc., a graphic design company. “You’re not the most unqualified or least knowledgeable person in the room. Everyone else thinks they are. And anyway it’s much more elegant to ask questions than to behave like you know all the answers. Because nobody does. Ever.”

Susan Sweet, 72, Rumford, former state administrator, non- profit lobbyist and advocate. “In the short space that we are in the world, we must create meaning in our lives by contributing to the happiness and well-being of other people and other sentient beings. To do good and useful work, caring and acting for the betterment of others is the true goal of life.”

Bob Billington, President of the Blackstone Valley Tourism Council who received his Doctorate in Education from Johnson & Wales University in 2005, says that “Star Power Sells” when seeking out a commencement speaker. “We have regular people walking amongst us who do very extraordinary things everyday but they may never get a chance to give a commencement speech at a college or university,” he notes.

If so, I say that it’s a shame.

Herb Weiss, LRI ’12, is a writer who covers aging, health care and medical issues. He can be reached at hweissri@aol.com.

Ben Batted 1,000

Published in Senior Digest on July 2004

Played on April 18, 1981, and June 23, 1981, Major League Baseball’s longest game between the Pawtucket Red Sox and Rochester Red Wings lasted for more than eight hours and 33 minutes.

Owner Ben Mondor’s watches over his bellowed Pawtucket Red Sox, the Triple-A International League affiliate of the Boston Red Sox, has stretched over 28 years, totaling more than 36,288 innings.

For baseball trivia buffs, both statistics are worthy of the history books.  Throughout his long career that began in 1977, Pawtucket baseball icon has accumulated 57 large scrap books crammed with newspaper clippings noting his achievements

Mondor, now age 79, admits that he didn’t have the necessary skills to play on a high school team, but his contributions as owner of the Pawtucket Red Sox to the City of Pawtucket, the state of Rhode Island and to the fans are legendary.

Some of the articles in Mondor’s scrapbooks note many, prominent awards he has received over the years. Among them, is the prestigious 2002 award from the Association of Fund-Raising Professionals, which recognized the Triple-A clubs as Rhode Island’s Outstanding Philanthropic Business. For his outstanding community service, he received the 2001 Hope Award from the Rhode Island State Council Knights of Columbus and the Pawtucket 2004 Foundation’s Heritage Award.

Over the years Mondor has also been recognized by peers for his exceptional and significant contributions to America’s favorite pastime. The Paw Sox owner and former Boston Red Sox CEO John Harrington are the only two non-uniformed members of the Red Sox to earn the BoSox Booster Club’s Man of the Year Award.  Meanwhile, Mondor took home the National Association of Professional Baseball League’s” John H. Johnson  President’s Trophy” in 1990.  Under Mondor’s watch, the Pawtucket Triple-A Club was also selected by Baseball America as the top Triple-A operation receiving the 1990 and 2003 Bob Freitas Award, only one of the three minor league franchises to receive that coveted award twice.

Last month, Ben Mondor Day was held at Fenway Park in Boston, Mondor says that the one-hour ceremony recognized the financial stability of his organization and the high caliber of his players. During his tenure, more than 422 ballplayers have completed stints in Pawtucket before joining American League or National League teams.

On a recent day, Mondor is sitting in his spacious office at a long conference table with his back to a huge rectangular window that gives him a magnificent view of the McCoy Stadium diamond.  Dozens of autographed baseballs in their plastic protective cases line the window ledge.

“Nolan Ryan and Roger Clemens signed balls,” Mondor noted, pointing to the keepsakes that hold memories of ballplayers’ visits to his office.  Adding to the ambiance, are three walls of photographs of Pawtucket Red Sox players, and scenes of McCoy Stadium. “It’s quite a place filled with heart-felt mementos,” he says.

Prominently placed on wall are photographs of 12 special supporters of Mondor’s. All of them are deceased, he reveals. “It’s scary to be the last one left,” he says.

“These are the people who got me interested in baseball and gave me a big hand when I took over the Pawtucket Red Sox in 1977,Mondor explains. Pointing to a photograph of the late Chet Nichols, a baker for former Hospital Trust, Mondor says, “He urged me to keep the team in Pawtucket.”

Looking at a photograph l of the late Ted Mulcahey, a sports editor for the Pawtucket Times, Mondor recalls the encouragement and guidance the newspaperman offered during his efforts to purchase the team and in his early day of ownership.

Mondor’s thirst for knowledge would lead him from Brown University, to the University of Rhode Island to Bryant College, where he “studied what he wanted to study.” Although he never graduated from college, he became a self-taught engineer, sharpening his craft by working in the mills of Woonsocket.

In a career shift lasting 18 years, Mondor would learn the trade of buying bankrupt businesses and restoring them to resell for a profit.  In a move that would change his life, Mondor took over the bankrupt Pawtucket Red Sox in 1976. At the time, he was retired and living in Lincoln.

Mondor says that the Pawtucket franchise could have been lost if he had not taken it over. “No Triple-A team could have come into Pawtucket because of the size of the city’s population and size of the stadium,” he says.

Thirty years ago, before Mondor purchased the franchise, he admits to be woefully uninformed about Pawtucket.  Today, he sees the city as a symbol of all the old mill cities in New England, successfully changing to survive. “We’re glad that we have become an institution for this city,” he says.

Speaking of Mondor, Pawtucket Mayor James E. Doyle says the team owner has been the unofficial ambassador for both baseball and the city.

Mondor’s fondest memory of his long career was during the 1999 season when McCoy Stadium underwent, a $16-million renovation and expansion.  After the renovations, the smallest of all Triple-A stadiums met the requirements of the Professional Baseball Association (PBA) with Disabilities Act.  One of the PBA’s criteria concerns seating capacity, and McCoy went from 6,000 to more than 10,000.

Along with more seats, the project entailed a new grandstand with an entry tower, a new playing field, an expanded main concourse with additional restrooms and concession stands, a new video board and a new scoreboard.

During Mondor’s first year as the owner of the Pawtucket Red Sox, only 70,000 fans came to watch the pennant-winning ball club.  During 2001, season in a renovated McCoy Stadium, however, attendance hit a franchise record of 647,928 fans – the first time the club drew more than 600,00 people.

Mondor is also proud of the upcoming Triple-A All-Star Game that will be held in Pawtucket this month. “It is usually a one-day affair, but we are planning to expand it to three days,” he said proudly, noting that no other Triple-A-Club in his memory has ever rolled out the red carpet like the Pawtucket Red Sox.

According to Mondor, in the 20 years of Triple-A clubs sponsoring this event, this is the first time ever that additional days were added to include festivities.

Retiring at the end of the 2004 season, Mondor has not regrets. “It’s been a long road and God’s been good to me,” he quips.

Poor health keeps Mondor from traveling with Madeline, his wife of 47 years.  However, he will continue to collect Russian artwork, visit museums detain the history of nations. An avid reader, the outgoing owner says he has more than 5,000 books in his study.

“By reading about the people who were instrumental in creating nations, in biographies and autobiographies, you might be surprised you can learn,” Mondor points out. “You can learn what they were thinking and why they acted in certain ways.”

If someone was to write his biography, Mondor would want readers to know that as the long-time Pawtucket Red Sox owner, he considers himself to be the luckiest man in the world. Additionally, he would want to get the message out about the importance of working. “Go to work. There is no substitute for work, and it will ultimately lead to your success,” he says.

Mondor says the secret of the franchise’s success under his rein is simple. “our philosophy was always to make McCoy Stadium an affordable, family-oriented place,” he says.  In the last 28 years, the rice of general admission tickets has remained at $4, and the cost of better seats has gone up from $7 to $9.

When asked about becoming a baseball icon in the Ocean State, Mondor attributed his well-recognized success to being surrounded by “the best people in baseball.” Rattling off a list of names l- Mike Tamburro, Lou Schwecheimer, Bill Wanless, Michael Gwyon and Mike Tedesco- along with 20 others in his administrative offices, Mondor knows he’s got a “well-oiled machine that actually runs by itself.”

“They make me look so good,” he says. Tamburro, the first employee that Mondor hired, will take over the reins at the end of the 2004 season. “He’s like my surrogate son.  We   work the same way and also have the same philosophies,” Mondor said.

Tamburro, who is President of the franchise agrees. “It’s been an honor to work side-by-side with Ben for the past 28 years. We shared dreams, a work ethic and a strong belief in our wonderful Pawtucket community.”

“Its my hope that the Paw Sox will always continue to uphold Ben’s idea of ting baseball  with family entertainment,” Tamburro says.