Unlocking Life’s Lessons: A Commencement Message Drawn from the Cards

Published in RINewsToday on May 19, 2025

Throughout May, college and university campuses across the nation come alive with pomp, circumstance—and especially with words of wisdom. At these commencement ceremonies, a diverse array of speakers takes the stage: from prominent politicians, judges, media personalities, and Hollywood actors, to Fortune 500 CEOs, and even top students, themselves.

In speeches typically lasting around ten minutes and averaging 2,500 words, these individuals—some earnest, others lighthearted—share their personal stories and hard-earned insights gained through life’s challenges. Simply put, their goal? To inspire, inform, and equip graduating seniors with practical advice for navigating the twists and turns of both their professional and personal lives.

For the past twelve years as a columnist I’ve participated in this tradition, but in my very own personal way—by writing commencement-style articles offering my reflections and guidance to graduating classes. While I haven’t delivered these speeches in person, my essays serve as thoughtful addresses to students entering the next chapter of their lives.

Here are a few highlights:

  • 2013Here’s My Advice to the Graduating Class of 2013 emphasized aging gracefully and embracing life’s journey, underscoring the importance of staying mentally and physically active.
  • 2014Regular Folks Give Advice to Graduates offered tips for easing into professional life, highlighting the value of adaptability and learning from others in a competitive job market.
  • 2015Sensible Advice from Seasoned Folk to the Class of 2015 compiled practical life lessons and words of encouragement from average everyday Rhode Islanders.
  • 2016Regular Folks Give Sound Advice to the Class of 2016 for Future Success again reinforced the idea that meaningful guidance often comes from everyday individuals.
  • 2022To the Class of 2022: Age Boldly, Enjoy Your Journey encouraged graduates to see aging as a lifelong, unpredictable  adventure—and to cherish good health as a vital asset.
  • 2023Can AI Create an “Authentic” Commencement Address? explored how the newly emerging technology of artificial intelligence (AI) might shape future speeches.
  • 2024Stoic Tips for the Class of 2024 drew on Stoic philosophy, originating in Athens around 300 BCE, today offers guidance on resilience, virtue, and perspective.  .

While these earlier Commencement Speeches blended my personal insight with broader philosophical reflections to support graduates on their new journeys, the Class of 2025 might also find them of interest, too. Today, I remain committed to the tradition of giving a fresh take on the classic commencement speech each May.

So, to the Class of 2025, I offer insights inspired by artificial intelligence (AI) and the collective wisdom of humanity. I know that this might sound a little over the top – but hear me out.  

A couple of years ago, Rhode Island hypnotist John Koenig gave the AI platform ChatGPT a unique assignment: “Comb through all human wisdom and identify the challenges each human being must face on their evolutionary journey.” This new technology also designed the images on the 64 cards, too. And AI delivered, notes Koenig, a Barrington resident who has practiced as a certified Hypnotist and past life facilitator for 27 years in Rhode Island and Southern Massachusetts.  

The AI-generated survey—free from individual bias—produced 64 principles essential for personal growth. Koenig expanded on these insights with his own commentary and turned them  into the Universal Mind Map Oracle Meditation System (UMMOMS), which he describes as “a personal curriculum for spiritual and personal growth.”

What makes the system personal is its use of random selection. Koenig explains that you can imagine the “universal mind” tutoring you with the right lesson at the right time—whether by shuffling a deck of cards or by using a random number generator. (go to chttps://www.gigacalculator.com/calculators/random-number-generator.php).

According to Koenig, it is worth noting that the doctrine of reincarnation is mentioned in the system (a belief shared by roughly half the world’s population), however, it is not essential to work the system. The system does not ask you to believe – or disbelieve anything but merely poses questions for your consideration.

This deck is meant to guide individuals in becoming their best selves, explains Koenig. From a random selection, I’ve drawn eight life lessons that I believe every 2025 graduate would do well to carry into their lives and careers:

• Card No. 16: Self-Control (Equanimity) – “Who is the boss of you? Is it your desire for short-term pleasures or your focus on deep and lasting satisfaction?” This card invites you to examine how many of your thoughts and behaviors are automatic. The challenge? To “wake up,” dehypnotize yourself, and live consciously—acknowledging that some habits may be so deeply ingrained that outside help is needed to change them. Self-mastery doesn’t mean you have to do it alone, the card reminds us.

• Card No. 30: The Mask – This card is a call to live authentically. Most of us wear three faces: the public persona, the self we fear, and the self we tell ourselves we are. This card invites you to discover a fourth—the whole self, complete with both flaws and strengths. “Own your flaws as well as what is fabulous about you.” Perfection is not the goal. Wholeness is.

• Card No. 46: Purposeful Action – “When you take purposeful action, you break from the trance of ‘the same old, same old.’ You become the author of your life,” says the card, stressing that “there is always only now.” This card emphasizes living fully in the present. “Squeeze the most life out of each moment—starting right now.”

• Card No. 7: Generosity – “Start adopting the habit of generosity today. Your reward will be a feeling of profound peace and deep satisfaction,” says the card. It reminds us that generosity is more than giving material things. It can also mean offering your time and energy to improve the lives of those you encounter. Remember: God helps those who are there to help others.

• Card No. 9: Mindfulness (Present Moment Awareness) – While it’s wise to stop and smell the roses, the thorns are just as real. This card urges you to be fully present with whatever is happening—not only the joys but also the challenges of life. Mindfulness is the art of observing without judgment. “It is what it is” becomes a mantra of acceptance. Quieting the mind opens the door to the fullness of life—and is, as the card says, mindfulness is “the ultimate self-development tool since it gives you access to the whole of you and all your experiences.”

• Card No. 23: Graciousness (Loving-Kindness) – Focus on love—not just as a feeling, but as action. The greatest gifts aren’t material but emotional: a kind word, a warm hug, a caring gesture. These can brighten someone’s day—or even change someone’s life.  And don’t forget self-love. “Self-talk that is kind and supportive is one way to love yourself,” observes the card. Treat yourself to comforts, pursue long-term goals, and practice “tough love” when needed. Look around—someone may need your love today. 

• Card No. 36: Life Map (Discernment) – On your journey, define your highest priorities and align your actions with those values. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you stray—life detours are inevitable. What matters most is recognizing when you’re off course and returning to the path that reflects your deepest truths.

And finally…

• Card No. 50: Creativity (Expressing Originality) – Successful creation involves breaking through the walls of fear—especially the fear of being wrong. It means letting go of perfectionism and simply striving to do your best. It also requires patience and a commitment to the often mundane tasks that come with the creative process. This card stresses how you choose to express your creativity is entirely up to you. And it doesn’t have to be a traditional work of art. It might be a beautifully hosted dinner party or a small act that brightens someone’s day when they need encouragement. Define your highest priorities and let your actions align with them. The card urges you to “embrace and share your creativity fully in your world.”

To the graduates of 2025:

May the messages of these cards, randomly selected by universal mind, guide you to embrace your journey with clarity, courage, and curiosity. Let timeless wisdom—whether drawn from ancient philosophy or modern technology—help you become your truest self.

To learn more about Koenig’s oracle meditation system, visit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_gZ0MAeyBc.

To purchase the guidebook and the deck, go to: https://hypnosiscoaching.online

For the guidebook only (you can use a random number generator to select the cards’ messages), visit: https://a.co/d/4rG7oUB 

Links to my past speeches: 

2013   — https://herbweiss.blog/2013/05/31/heres-my-advice-to-the-graduating-class-of-2013/

2014 — https://herbweiss.blog/2014/05/23/regular-folks-give-advice-to-graduates/

2015 — https://herbweiss.blog/2015/05/17/sensible-advice-from-seasoned-folk-to-the-class-of-2015/

2016 — https://herbweiss.blog/2016/06/06/regular-folks-give-sound-advice-to-class-of-2016-for-future-success/

2022 — https://herbweiss.blog/2022/05/16/to-the-class-of-2022-age-boldly-enjoy-your-journey/

2023 — https://herbweiss.blog/2023/05/15/can-ai-create-an-authentic-commencement-address/

2024 — https://herbweiss.blog/2024/05/27/stoic-tips-for-the-class-of-2024/

How religious are we? National survey results

Published in RINewsToday.com on April 21, 2025

According to an April 17 article in the National Catholic Register (NCR), outreach, Eucharistic revival, immigration—and perhaps even the Holy Spirit—are sparking spiritual renewal, not just in the United States, but also abroad.

NCR reports that France expects a surge in adult baptisms this year, estimated at more than 10,000. Meanwhile, England is witnessing a quiet Catholic revival, primarily driven by young male converts.

Closer to home, the Rhode Island Catholic, the newspaper of the Diocese of Providence, reported in its latest issue that “Boston Archbishop Richard G. Henning, S.T.D., was greeted by one of the largest crowds in years for a Chrismas Mass at the Cathedral of SS. Peter and Paul. The church was packed with worshippers from across the diocese, and Archbishop Henning described being buoyed by the joyful spirit that began for him during his time as shepherd of the Diocese of Providence.”

What does research say about America’s Catholics?

According to a March 4, 2025 article “10 Facts About U.S. Catholics,” posted on the Pew Research Center’s (PRS) website, around 20% of U.S. adults identify as Catholic, translating to approximately 53 million Catholic adults nationwide.

Here are a few facts detailed in the article…

The share of Hispanic Catholics continues to rise. While since the year 2007, the percentage of white Catholics has dropped by 10 percentage points, the share of Hispanic Catholics has increased by 7 percentage points. In fact, 29% of U.S. Catholics are immigrants, or children of immigrants.

Demographically, Catholics tend to skew older: nearly 58% are age 50 or older. Regionally, 29% reside in the South, 26% in the Northeast, 25% in the West, and 20% in the Midwest.

In terms of education, 35% of U.S. Catholics are college graduates, while 27% have some college experience but no degree, and 38% have a high school diploma or less. Religiously, about three-in-ten Catholics attend Mass weekly or more, while 51% pray daily, and 44% say religion is very important in their lives.

Taking a look at America’s religious communities

PRS’s latest 393 page RLS report, “Decline of Christianity in the U.S. Has Slowed, May Have Leveled Off”, released on Feb. 26, 2025, suggests that the steady decline in Christian affiliation may be stabilizing. As of 2025, 62% of U.S. adults identify as Christian—a 9-point drop since 2014 and 16 points down from 2007—but that figure has held relatively stable between 60% and 64% over the past five years.

This latest RLS is the third major national study conducted by PRC over the past 17 years, each surveying around 36,908 randomly selected respondents. Since the U.S. Census Bureau does not collect religious data, the PRC’s work represents the largest ongoing national survey on religion and spirituality, providing insights into all 50 states, D.C., and 34 of the largest metropolitan areas.

The report, released February 26, 2025, also highlights trends in other faiths. While still in the single digits, the number of Americans identifying with non-Christian religions is growing:

  • 1.7% are Jewish
  • 1.2% are Muslim
  • 1.1% are Buddhist
  • 0.9% are Hindu

Meanwhile, 29% of Americans are religiously unaffiliated, identifying as atheists, agnostics, or “nothing in particular.” This group—often called the NONES — has grown rapidly in previous decades but appears to be plateauing.

Despite this shift, spiritual belief remains widespread:

  • 86% believe in a soul or spirit
  • 83% believe in God or a universal spirit
  • 79% believe in something spiritual beyond the natural world
  • 70% believe in an afterlife (heaven, hell, or both)
  • 92% hold at least one of these spiritual beliefs

Still, the PRC’s RLS warns that signs point to potential future declines in religious affiliation, especially among younger Americans. The study found that only 46% of adults aged 18–24 identify as Christian, compared to 80% of those aged 74 and older. Younger adults are also less likely to pray daily (27% vs. 58%), less likely to attend monthly religious services (25% vs. 49%), and more likely to be religiously unaffiliated (43% vs. 13%).

In the Pew Research study of 2015, it was found, as it hhas been for many years, that Rhode Island is far-and-away the most Catholic state in the country, with 42 percent of Rhode Islanders consider themselves Catholic. Three states are tied for second place at 34 percent: Massachusetts, New Jersey and New Mexico.

Religion and Age

Older Americans continue to form the majority of many Christian denominations:

  • 64% of mainline Protestants
  • 57% of Catholics
  • 54% of evangelicals
    are age 50 or older.

By contrast, Muslims are among the youngest religious groups in the U.S., with three-quarters under the age of 50, and one-third younger than 30.

Among the religiously unaffiliated, about 70% are under 50, compared to 44% among the religiously affiliated, says the RLS.

The median age of U.S. Christians has climbed from 46 in 2007 to 55 in 2024, a trend mirrored across nearly all Christian subgroups. In contrast, the median age of the religiously unaffiliated and those in non-Christian religions has remained relatively stable since 2007.

When respondents were asked how their personal religiousness had changed over their lifetime:

  • 44% reported no significant change,
  • 29% said they had become less religious,
  • 28% said they had become more religious.

The 2023–2024 RLS (The Religious Landscape Study) was conducted in English and Spanish from July 17, 2023, to March 4, 2024, among a nationally representative sample of 36,908 respondents. The survey has a margin of error of ±0.8 percentage points and a response rate of 20%.

This research was made possible through support from The Pew Charitable Trusts, with funding from Lilly Endowment Inc., Templeton Religion Trust, The Arthur Vining Davis Foundations, and the M.J. Murdock Charitable Trust.

To read the full report, visit: https://www.pewresearch.org/wp-content/uploads/sites/20/2025/02/PR_2025.02.26_religious-landscape-study_report.pdf.

The wall of separation, church and state

Published in RINewsToday on December 23, 2024

Lawmakers with strong religious beliefs can be found serving in state houses, congress, and state departments of education, etc., throughout the nation. Occasionally, we’ve seen the wall of separation of church and state crumble, or be taken up in the courts.

According to PEN America, between July and Dec. 2022, “Texas school districts had the most instances of book bans with 438 bans, followed by 357 bans in Florida, 315 bans in Missouri, and over 100 bans in both Utah and South Carolina. The topics of banned books included race and racism, gender identity and explicit sexuality and health. 

In Oklahoma, the state is purchasing 500 bibles to be placed in public schools. Louisiana becomes the first state to require public schools to display the Ten Commandments in classrooms, while some have long done so. With the Supreme Court overturning Roe v. Wade, and returning the abortion issue to the states, there have been state by state challenges, as well.

Those who oppose a strict separation of church and state say that these words do not appear in the  U.S. Constitution. However, those calling for the wall to be made stronger say the concept is enshrined in the very first freedom guaranteed by the First Amendment: “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion” is the opening line of the First Amendment.

Plurality of Religions and Spiritual Seekers, too

The largest percentage of Americans identify with a Christian religion (Protestantism, Catholicism, and Non-specific Christians

). Others identify themselves as non-Christian, including Mormonism, Judaism, Buddhism, Islam,  Hinduism, Jainism, Sikhism, Unitarian Universalism, Baha’i, Wicca and other Neopagan religions, and Native American religions.  

And let us not forget those who do not believe choose to not affiliate with an organized religion, specifically, those who consider themselves an atheist or an agnostic. The main difference between the two being that an atheist does not believe in a God, or a higher power, while an agnostic does not believe it is possible to know if God exists.

But there are a growing number of Americans who view themselves as spiritual but not religious (SBNRs).  These individuals do not believe in a formal need for a “middle-man” and attending a service in a defined structure in order to celebrate Easter, Christmas, Yom Kippur, or that attending weekly services is a way to connect with God. 

Pew Research study

Last December, the Washington, DC-based Pew Research Center released a study whose finding indicated that in recent decades less Americans are identifying with organized religion.  Seven in 10 adults describe themselves as spiritual in some way, including 22% who are spiritual but not religious (SBNRs) and don’t attend religious institutions, say the findings. 

SBNRs is a relatively new term, actually derived by dating apps as a way to say a person was spiritual but not identifying with one religion or another. Respondents were more likely to see spiritual forces at work in nature than religious-and-spiritual Americans. For example, the findings indicated that 71% of SBNRs believe that spirits or spiritual energies can be found in parts of nature like mountains, rivers or trees while 59% believe that being connected with nature is “essential” to what being spiritual means to them.

Additionally, many SBNRs (45%) do claim a religious affiliation, although they don’t consider themselves religious or say religion is very important in their lives. They expressed more negative views of organized religion than religious-and-spiritual Americans, with 42% saying that religion causes division and intolerance.

The Pew survey also found that belief in spirits or a spiritual realm beyond this world is widespread, even among those who don’t consider themselves religious.

According to the Pew survey’s findings, 83% of all U.S. adults believe people have a soul or spirit in addition to their physical body while 81% believe there is something spiritual beyond the natural world, even if “we cannot see it.”  Seventy four percent say that there are some things that science cannot possibly explain while 45% noted they have had a sudden feeling of connection with something from beyond this world. And 30% say they have personally encountered a spirit or unseen spiritual force.

Overall, 70% of U.S. adults can be considered “spiritual” in some way because they think of themselves as spiritual people or say spirituality is very important in their lives, noted the researchers.

Most of these people also consider themselves religious or say that religion is very important in their lives. There is enough overlap between what people mean by “spirituality” and what they have in mind by “religion” that nearly half of U.S. adults indicate they are both religious and spiritual.

However,  22% of U.S. adults fall into the category of spiritual but not religious. The new survey offers a rich portrait of this group, showing what beliefs, they hold, how they practice their spirituality and how they tend to differ from those who embrace the “religious” label.The researchers asked all surveyed respondents to describe, in their own words, what the term “spiritual” means to them.  Their responses ranged from “Being one with your soul, emotions, feelings, actions,” or “Connecting with the creator who is the source of my existence, providing strength, guidance, hope and peace. The word of God provides direction for my life.”

Others responded by saying they believed in something larger and more creative than science. While not adhering to a particular religion, some acknowledged “a higher power that exists above all that is.”

These open-ended responses from the surveyed respondents illustrate the difficulty of separating “spirituality” from “religion,” say the researchers suggesting that “for many Americans, there is no clear dividing line.”

The survey findings also indicated that 27% define “spiritual” by mentioning beliefs or faiths associated with organized religion. Many (24%) say the word “spiritual” is about connections, frequently with God, but also, in some cases, with one’s inner self. One-in-ten say “spiritual” relates to understanding themselves or guiding their own behavior.

Taking a Close Look, One’s Spiritual Beliefs

Half of the respondents believe that spirits can inhabit burial places, such as graveyards, cemeteries or other memorial sites, say the Pell researchers, adding that about 48% says that parts of the natural landscape – such as mountains, rivers or trees – can have spirits or spiritual energies.

Death is not the end of a person’s existence, say more than half of respondents (57%). They believe that in the afterlife, people definitely. or probably. can reunite with loved ones who also have died. About four-in-ten or more say that dead people definitely or probably can assist, protect or guide the living (46%), be aware of what’s going on among the living (44%) or communicate with them (42%).

Spending time in nature can enhance one’s spiritual connect, say 77 percent of the respondents who note they spend time outside at least a few times a month. Twenty-six percent see spending time with nature as a way to “feel connected with something bigger than themselves or with their true self.”  Twenty-two percent say that meditation is one way to connect with their “true self or with something bigger than themselves.”

Finally, more than one-third of respondents revealed that they own a symbolic cross for spiritual purposes. Also, 15% admitted that they maintained a shrine, altar or icon in their home; 12% possess crystals for spiritual purposes; and 9% have a tattoo or piercing for a spiritual purpose.

A Final Note…

Roger Williams, a Puritan minister and founder of Rhode Island, called on a “high wall” between the church and state to keep the “wilderness” of governments out of the activities of religion. He also believed in all religions, rather than no religion, a common misperception of Williams’ intent.

According to a posting on the Jefferson Monticello website, “Thomas Jefferson sought to create a ‘wall of separation between Church & State,’ rejecting the historical entanglement of government and religion he believed denied people a fundamental right of conscience and the right to think and decide for oneself so essential to a republic.”

The U.S. motto, e pluribus unum, that we, as a nation, are gathered together as one out of many. With a new Congress and administration taking the reins of government next month, the rights and freedoms guaranteed to us in our Constitution are important to know and protect. We Americans believe that a variety of formal religions and other belief structures all lead to God.

The Pew Research Center survey of American spirituality, conducted July 31-Aug. 6, 2023, had a nationally representative sample of 11,201 members of our American Trends Panel. The margin of sampling error for the full sample is plus or minus 1.4 percentage points.

To read the Pew Research Center’s (PRS) Report on Americans and Spirituality, click here: https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2023/12/07/spirituality-among-americans/

Also, check out PRC’s reports on Separation of Church and State.  Go to

https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2022/10/27/45-of-americans-say-u-s-should-be-a-christian-nation/  and

https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2021/10/28/in-u-s-far-more-support-than-oppose-separation-of-church-and-state/.