Sensible Advice from Seasoned Folk to the Class of 2015  

Published in Woonsocket Call on May 17, 2015 — Updated

This month, notable and professionally successful commencement speakers are again gathering at the nation’s Colleges and Universities to give the robed graduating Class of 2015 seniors’ practical tips and advice as to how to have a rewarding personal and professional life.  High profile speakers cam oftentimes translate into big bucks for speaking fees but these widely recognized speakers can bring prestige to the educational institutions.

CNN.web has announced the this year’s high profile speakers for the upcoming commencement season. According to website, like every year these speakers are politicians, journalists, military leaders, entertainers and business CEOs.  Here’s a sampling: President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama, Oscar winning actors, Anthony Hopkins and Denzel Washington, Novelist and Essayist Author Salmon Rushdie, Bill Nye, the “Science Guy” and Journalist Katie Couric.

May be its time to end the practice of bringing in high-paid commencement speakers.  For this writer, regular folks will do.  Below you might just see many potential commencement speakers, just waiting for the 10 minutes of fame to stand before hundreds of graduating seniors to give their “pearls of wisdom” on living a better life. You may not recognize them on the street, but many in their community know who they are for their achievements of making their Cities and Towns a better place to live.  While not high-profile, through life’s experiences honed every day at work or in their personal worlds, they can give Rhode Island’s college graduates sound, practical advice, to live in a very challenging, and changing world.

Charles Bakst, 71, Providence, retired Providence Journal political columnist. “Stand for something and act upon it.Don’t assume someone else already has done it or will do it.  Work to advance yourself but remember there are plenty of people, even right here in Rhode Island, who have not had the advantages you’ve had. They could use a break too. Help them.”

Dave Barber, 60, East Greenwich, Reporter Capitol Television RI State House. “It’s attitude, not aptitude that will determine your altitude.  There is nothing that will serve you better in the future than a positive mental attitude.  There are two days in life that never exist; yesterday and tomorrow. Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery. Live in the moment. Exercise gratitude and kindness in all that you do because there has never been a statue erected of a critic.”

Rick Roth, 61, Cambridge, MA, Owner of Mirror Image.  “Read because if you don’t know anything you are no good to yourself or anybody else and reading is the key to gaining knowledge.  When you are talking (particularly about yourself) you can’t listen. You learn by listening. Try to make the world a better place Pursuit of money is an empty pursuit and will leave you unhappy and dissatisfied.”

Scott A. Davis, 58, Eastside, Owner of the Rhode Island Antique Mall. “In today’s age of information, simply having knowledge is not worth much.  The secret to success in the future will not lie so much in what you know, but in your ability to synthesize information, whether already known or newly acquired, and to draw insightful and valuable conclusions from it.”

Scott Rotondo, 41, Pawtucket, accountant at Tivoli Audio. “Always be willing to expand your intellectual toolbox. Challenge the way things are done, and your own beliefs from time to time. Take in other people’s opposing points of view not with rancor and disdain but with dignity and respect.”

Lisa A. Proctor, 55, East Providence, healer/counselor. “You can not necessarily say all things are possible with God because many do not believe, but I would say a lot of situations we find ourselves in heal when we live honestly, purely, committed and have a merciful and compassionate heart towards others.”

Rudy Cheeks, 65, a musician and columnist of Motif, Providence, “If you can find what you love and make it the center of your life, you’re doing good and will likely be happy.  Whatever you do, “building community” should be an element in your life. Meet your responsibilities (e.g. if you want to create your own family, make sure you are ready for it and committed to it). When you become an “active consumer,” be a smart and thoughtful consumer.”

Kathy Needham, 53, Rumford, Controller, of Pawtucket Times and Woonsocket Call. “Follow this old adage, “Autograph your work with excellence, it is a signature of who you are”.  Take great pride in all you do but always remember to be humble.  Know that success is a personal goal.”

Gayle L. Gifford, 61, Providence, a strategy consultant to nonprofits, “Be an informed citizen of the world.  Read quality news from home and abroad.  Travel. Look. Hear. Participate to create the community you want your children and grandchildren to live in. Hopefully that community is one of justice, peace and inclusion. Don’t work all day in a job that destroys what you value. Play outside.”

Crystal R. Parifitt, 41, Pawtucket, Owner of  FurBabies, a small pet salon. “Live within your means, below if you can…owning the biggest and best is overrated.  Don’t go after financial gain, choose financial stability because in 20 years you will regret the time you spent ‘chasing’ when you should have been living.”

Nancy Thomas, Cranston, President of Tapestry Communications.  “What you have done has largely been expected of you.  Now, what do you expect of yourself!  Find more than one thing you can do.  Pursue your education.  You’re not done.  Read, discuss, have opinions. Let the negative inspire you, and the positive be your lens. And, as it has always been, there is no work as important as that of raising a child.  Find your path to doing well at both.”

Barbara Peters, Newport, former AARP RI Communications Director, “Life is full of successes and disappointments. When we are young we tend to “cry” when the material things we want don’t immediately come our way. Forget the disappointments and concentrate on your successes. Nobody will hand you what you think you deserve.  [Only] hard work, dedication to your craft and sensitivity to the feelings of others will bring the rewards to you that are truly deserved.”

Cheryl Babiec, Pawtucket, Pawtucket School Teacher. “As an old saying goes….’One Man’s Junk is Another Man’s Treasure’ continues to hold true with the test of time. One of my yard sale “finds” had the following inspirational verse (though the author is unknown):‘Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away.’”

Herb Weiss, LRI ’12 is a Pawtucket writer covering aging, health care and medical issues.  He can be reached at hweissri@aol.com.

 

Pawtucket Arts Festival Has Attractions for Both Young and Old

Published in Pawtucket Times on September 1, 2003

The Pawtucket Arts Festival – it’s all about arts and culture.

For aging baby boomers and seniors, the city’s three-week arts festival, from Sept. 5-21, can be a great get away to take the kids or grandkids for some great family fun.

On Friday, the Pawtucket Arts Festival, formerly part of the Convergence International Arts Festival, will kick off its 2003 season with a mega-Opening gala at the Blackstone Valley Visitor Center, 175 Main St. For just $2, dinner is provided to you by more than 40 local restaurants. The youngsters will love the sound of the French-Canadian band. “Le Vent Du Nord.” They’ll even enjoy watching a tango demonstration presented by Providence tango.

Also, at the Opening Gala, you can get an education about art by meeting the artists and viewing a mixed-media art exhibit by members of the Pawtucket Arts Collaborative. In addition, you can see more than 100 photos (many from local schoolchildren) entered in the City of Pawtucket’s fifth annual photo contest, organized by the Camera Werks of Providence, “People, Places and Things in Pawtucket’s Neighborhood.”

Also at the opening gala, you’ll have the opportunity to meet the sculptors at the “Traditions in Sculpture,” exhibit opening. This figurative sculpture exhibit is presented by Pawtucket-based Kane Sculpture studios.

Last year, thousands of people came from all over Rhode Island to attend the opening gala. This popular event is expected to again by filled to capacity. Call (401) 724-2200 to get instructions about purchasing your admission ticket. Of course, this ticket can be purchased at the door.

For family activities, courtesy of the Pawtucket YMCA, arts and crafts, face painting, a rock-climbing wall, and a bouncing obstacle course will be featured in the parking lot right across from the fire station on Roosevelt Avenue. At  8:30 p.m. a film, “Harry Potter & the Chamber of  Secrets,” will be shown at the Veterans Memorial Amphitheater.

On Sept. 6, experience Chinese culture by attending the Pawtucket Arts Festival’s fourth annual Dragon Boat Race at the School Street pier. Mayor James Doyle challenged all the cities and towns of Rhode Island to participate in this unique race – the boats are 38 feet long, manned by a crew of 18.

Next Saturday, you will see boats sponsored by the cities of Pawtucket. Providence, Cranston and Cumberland race to compete against each  other in the festival’s Public Servant Challenge Race.

Also included in an amazing musical and dance program provided by the Taiwanese government. At the same time on the other end of the pier. Chris Kane from Kane Sculpture of Pawtucket will demonstrate of art of sculpture with a “mental pour.” Results of these “pourings,” metal trivets commemorating the Chinese Dragon Boat Races, will be available for sale at his event.

On Sept. 7, take a trolly tour of artists studios in six mill properties to see dazzling artwork produced by hundreds of Pawtucket artisans. It will be a great opportunity to both young and old  to learn the art of papermaking, painting, photography, woodworking and pottery, to name a few.  Many of these studios offer classes all year long.

Bring the 60s to your children and grandchildren by attending the first “Stone Soup Folk Fest” and fine arts show  at Slater Memorial Park on Sept. 13-14.

Visitors can browse and shop at numerous vendor booths and also listen to a great line up of well-known folk music musicians.

On Saturday, Sept. 13, you can listen to Paul Geremia, Jack Hardy Band, Suzzy & Maggie Roche and Luch Kaplansky. On Sept. 14, come see Brooks Williams, Cliff Eberhardt, Rani Arbo & Daisy Mayhem and Vance Gilbert.

For bagpipe lovers, listen to the enchanting sounds of the Rhode Island Professional Firefighters Pipes & Drums, and storytelling by Melodie Thompson.

From Sept. 10-15, the 2003 Pawtucket Arts Festival also includes a six-night film festival, with internationally-known filmmaker Michael Corrente attending, on Sept. 10.

On Sept. 18, come listen to a poetry reading and meet nationally-acclaimed poet Norah Pollard, daughter of legendary Pawtucket jockey John “Red” Pollard, who is immortalized in this year’s blockbuster movie hit “Seabiscuit.”

For folk music lovers, Stone Soup Coffee House, one of the oldest coffee houses in New England, begins its 23nd season on Sept. 6 at the Arts Center of the Boys and Girls Club on Main Street. Come back to Stone Soup on Sept. 13 and Sept. 20 to listen to great folk music.

One of the most anticipated and long-awaited Pawtucket Arts Festival events is a performance on Saturday evening, Sept. 20, by the Rhode Island Philharmonic Orchestra. At the conclusion of the performance, there will be a dazzling display of fireworks.

On Sept. 21, the winners of the GreenUp Awards and the city photo contest will be announced at the City’s Visitor Center, at 175 Main St. The final event of the 2003 Pawtucket Arts Festival is the Blackstone Valley Heritage Concert Series. This event will take place at the Pawtucket Congregational Church.

Both young and old can experience the arts for three weeks in Pawtucket. There is no charge in attending the scores of events (except the film festival). Parking is free.