The Best of…Prayer and Family Important to This Centurion

Published April 2006, Pawtucket Times

           A life-long resident of Attleboro, Massachusetts, Blanche Dugas, who now resides at Canterbury Woods,  remembered the happy memories of raising her three children in a  home on 12th Street, right across from the City’sCaponPark. 

         Raising her family with a loving husband was the most important accomplishment in her life, she said           

         The 101 year old woman said her old neighborhood was a great place for the kids to grow up. “I would send them to the park with a lunch,” she said, shrugging her shoulders with the realization that the world today is not the world she grew up in. “You never worried about your children being picked up by strangers.”

         She would start her mornings off by talking to her mother who just so happened to have a kitchen window facing her.  You guessed it – Dugas built her house right next to her parent’s lot.

          Dugas also fondly talked about her 83-year-old husband who died in the early 1980s with dementia.  “We were very close,” she said, being very pleased that she was able to marry “such a good guy.”   

          Now Dugas reflects on her days before she got married at the ripe old age of 22.  During their nine month courtship Phillip Dugas would drive his Model T over 35 miles from Putnam,Connecticutto South Attleboroto her house to visit on Thursdays and Sundays.  Blanche would marry this young man, the one who she met atOcean Grove,Rhode Island.  With a good reputation for cutting meat, her husband opened up a small grocery store inDodgeville,Massachusetts.  His reputation brought in customers, allowing the store to thrive for fifty years. .  

          Dugas is proud to be the oldest person residing inSt. Joseph’s parish.  When she turned age 100 she received a medallion [which she wears all the time] from the Bishop of Fall River, along with a citation.  President and Laura Bush also recognized her milestone age, too.

        “God has been great to me,” she says, noting that he has left her with her “thinking, hearing, and eye sight.”  What else do you need to live, she says jokingly. She sees her longevity tied to living a good, clean life. 

         “They tell me that there must be a reason for me living such a long life.  I pray a lot for the residents of the assisted living facility and for her family,” Dugas says.  However, she is not a stronger to the power of prayer.  A priest once told her that if you wanted to live a long happy life, you pray together. “We did that in my family and also in my marriage.”  

          Herb Weiss is a Pawtucket-based free lance writer who covers aging, health care and medical issues.  This article was published in April 2006.  He can be reached at hweissri@aol.com.

Let the Spirit Be With You

Religion, Meditation Can Lead to Better Health

Published in Senior Digest on December 2004, p. 1

Owen Mahoney inherited his Catholic faith from his parents. The 78-year-old Warwick resident remembers that his intellectual curiosity helped him to better understand his religion. It also propelled him into taking philosophy and theology courses, attending workshops and having regular contact with priests.

“I knew I was on the right road and the right relationship with God,” Owen says, reflecting how Catholicism had influenced major events in his life.

From age 7 until he graduated from high school at age 17, the youngster would serve as an alter boy at his local parish. Two weeks after his graduation he would enlist in the United States Navy. The young man would find himself steering a landing craft onto the bloody Normandy Beach. His earlier alter boy experiences, gleaned during his teen-aged years, would serve him well during his three years of service during World War II. He would become an alter boy for the chaplains on the aircraft carrier U.S.S. Lake Champlain and during services at bases in England and Italy.

Catholicism would later lead to Owen enrolling at Providence College, a university run by the Jesuit order. It would also influence Owen and his wife Teresa, now married for 53 years, to raise their 12 children in the Catholic faith. Now retired, the Mahony’s attend church regularly and serve as Eucharistic ministers at Rhode Island Hospital, giving Holy Communion to the Catholic patients.

Dr. Ray Whitman, 68, a former economist who taught at the University of the District of Columbia, who now consults with the district’s government, didn’t really begin his spiritual quest until his late 30s. Ray’s desire to understand his spirituality was a long, sometimes painful process, he remembers, saying that a mid-life crisis at age 39 forced him to reevaluate his personal life, including his ties to the Episcopal Church.

“My personal crisis created an interest to explore New Age beliefs and activities,” he says. During Ray’s search, he learned how to cast astrology and numerology charts, attended metaphysical church services, practiced yoga, became a Life Spring graduate and sought advise from psychics and the counsel of gurus.

For over 22 years, the economist studied the teachings and meditation practices of Guru Mayi Chidvilasananda, the current head of the Siddha Lineage of gurus. “I have a much clearer vision of the truth through the teachings of Siddha yoga than I received through the theology of the Episcopal Church,” he said.

With Guru Mayi being less accessible to her devotees, Whitman is now focusing more on the teachings of yoga and the practice of yoga and meditation.

Both the Mahony’s strong Catholic beliefs and their regular attendance and Ray Whitman’s non-mainstream spiritual beliefs would not be a surprise to most researchers. A 2002 Gallup Poll found that “spiritual commitment usually increases as age increases.” Two years later, an AARP survey found older people more likely to attend church regularly than other age groups.

In the trenches, the Rev. Dr. George Peters, pastor and teacher of the Pawtucket Congregational Church (United Church of Christ), agrees with the observations of both polls. He sees a strong commitment to religion in his older parishioners every Sunday at worship.

“The missing generation for us to people ages 25 to 50,” the Rev. Peters says, noting that his church, like many in urban down towns have older congregations. “It’s not that we don’t attract younger members. The children of our members just grow up and move away.”

When asked about why “the greatest generation” has very strong ties to religion, the Rev. Peters said. “The group of people age 75 and older are really the last generation that really grew up in the church, worshiping regularly, being actively involved in youth organizations and attending.

“Seniors really know how to do church. They have a strong record of leadership with the church and are active volunteers,” adds the Rev. Peters.

While family physicians say that regular exercise, a good diet and giving up risky activities such as such as smoking and drinking can improve one’s health and longevity, a growing body of research adds regularly attending religious services to the list of recommendations to improve health and increase life spans.

In a July/August 1999 issue of the Journal of Gerontology, medical science editor, Dr. Harold G. Koenig, a researcher at Duke University Medical Center, noted that those who attended religious services every week were 46 percent less likely to die over as six-year period than people who attended less often or not at all.

In his study examining 4,000 of the state’s residents ages 64 to 100 that accounted for factors such as illness, depression, social connections, health practices and demographics, the North Carolina researcher found regular churchgoers were still 28 percent less likely to die than others in the study.

Dr. Koenig’s findings build on a series of earlier studies at Duke showing that religious people have lower blood pressure, less depression and anxiety and stronger immune systems than those less religious.

Some researchers may say that it is simplistic to believe that being religious is a causal factor that may improve a senior’s health and longevity. By being involved in a church, older persons are put in contact with a large number of people who can be approached for help in person or by phone. A church or synagogue can also provide seniors with many opportunities to stay socially active and engaged in community gatherings or volunteer efforts.

The Best of…Before ‘Crossing Over,’ Leave a Legacy of Love

           Published May 6, 2002, Pawtucket Times

          Dead men (or women) tell no tales.

          That’s not true for millions of viewers who watch the syndicated hit series “Crossing Over” with John Edward.  The 31-year old internationally acclaimed m medium has touched the hearts and souls of the American public as he uses his uncanny mediumistic ability to connect audiences with their loved ones who have “crossed over.”

         Belive him or not, this show is making waves throughout southern New England, according to Judy Shoemaker, director of promotions for ABC 6.  The dead have something to say and Edward is listening to what they say, she noted.

       Attesting to the popularity of the show, 2,500 tickets costing $45 were sold out in just one hour after being made available for yesterday’s gathering at the Rhode Island Convention Center.

       Edward was the sponsor of the Providence event.  Before Sunday, tickets were sold on E-Bay, prices going for as high as $450 per ticket.

        Edward’s visit to the Renaissance City is the most anticipated promotional event that ABC 6 has sponsored in the last 30 years, noted Shoemaker.  The Providence-based television station on Orms Street – which now airs Edward’s one-hour show on weekdays at 4 p.m. – received hundreds of letters, emails and calls for the last several weeks from frantic fans wanting to go to the event.

        “This show has moved and touched so many people and it makes them feel good,” Shoemaker said, explaining why the show sold out so quickly.

        According to the Sci-Fi Channel, age 50-plus viewers watching “Crossing Over” represents 38 percent of the 503,000 viewers on late Monday-Thursday evenings and 30 percent of the 553,000 viewers of the program at its late Sunday night time slot.

       Rose O. Boucher, 84, a life-long Pawtucket resident, regularly tunes into “Crossing Over” on the Sci-Fi Channel and on ABC 6.  For her, Edward’s show “is educational and relaxing to watch,” she says. Boucher likes how it helps people who have worries and doubts.  Responding to Edward’s skeptics, she said, “There are a lot of things in the world that we don’t know about.”

       According to Edward, at age 15 he tried to debunk a psychic that was doing readings at his grandmother’s house. Going into his reading skeptical, Edward came out impressed with the psychic’s accuracy.

       “The information that came through was factual and not generalities,” Edward said, who noted that she even predicted that he would do the work if he chose to.

        Even with 16 years of studying psychic development and metaphysics, Edward never has forgotten his Catholic upbringing and he believes that it has even enhanced his own religious beliefs.

       While he does not attend church regularly, he is constantly praying with his rosary and doing his spiritual work.  “Using your rosary and saying a repetition of prayers significantly helps you raise your own vibration and frequency,” he says.

        “Everyone is psychic,” Edward said. “Be open to learning about spiritual development.  Go to a metaphysical bookstore or the new age section in a bookstore and let the book pick you.”

       Edward looks at death this way — “Energy cannot be created or destroyed, yet it can change forms.  I just look at death as a transition of the energy of the soul outside of the body.” Over the years, Edward said he has found that his readings have solidified and strengthened the religious beliefs of many people.

        Is there a heaven or hell? No, said Edward.  The other side is made up of different levels and you gravitate to the level appropriate to your spiritual growth.  “The higher more evolved levels might be deemed the heavenly levels while the lower levels are for people who are not so [spiritually advanced].

       Edward urges people to take the opportunity to communicate and validate others in their lives before they “cross over” so that a medium is not required to do it for them.

       Before you greet death, leave your legacy of love behind.  That’s what it is really all about, said the frequently humorous and down-to-earth medium.

       Leaving your legacy of love behind is as simple as looking your loved one in the eyes and saying, “I love you.”

       Herb Weiss is a Pawtucket-based freelance writer who covers aging, healthcare and medical issues.  This article was printed in the May 06, 2002 issue of the Pawtucket Times.